DEPRESSION, OR WINTER BLUES AND SAD TIME THAT LAST,,, PLEASE ASK DOC AND FAMILY OR FRIENDS FOR HELP.
THIS HAS BEEN ON MY MIND ALOT THIS LAST WEEK . IF YOU ARE FEELING DOWN AND SAD,PLEASE REACH OUT.
I HAVE LOST FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND BEEN THRU THIS FOR YEARS MYSELF 30 SOME. NOW MEDS LAST 16 YRS.
PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE ,AND IF ANY DARK IDEAS OR MOODS LAST REACH OUT FOR HELP. THE MIND IS THICKY AND WE CAN NOT JUST WILL THINGS BETTER,OR JUST SNAP OUT OF IT.
SO PLEASE ASK AND GET HELP ,AND THINGS CAN GET BETTER. I AM VERY CONCERNED LATLY BOUT THIS AND THE TIMES AND STRESSES PEOPLE ARE DEALING WITH,THESE DAYS... OK TO PM ME IF YOU DONT WANT TO REPLY IN OPEN ,ITS OK.LATTTER DAVID J WE CAN ALL USE A FRIEND OR HAND SOMETIMES : :2thumbs:
I agree and thanks for this post. I lost my son at age 21 last year due to a drug overdose. I believe the underlying cause was depression. He never wanted to talk about it and I didn't quite know what to do.
It's definitely the best for everyone to get things like this out in the open, even though it feels almost impossible to do so. :2thumbs:
Wow! Sorry to hear that finoke. I think it's a great idea to have a place to vent here. I'm sure we've got plenty of members here going through tuff times and or personal tragedies. Thanks for posting finoke. :cheers: I see you've been here since 05 but rarely post. Time to brake that habit and get to know us idiots. :2thumbs:
Chuck ..........
I fully agree with Dj, post up. We are a support group. Not just for cars either. :cheers:
I go through this a lot , especially in the cold dark winter days .Things have been better since I moved to Panama or the most part .
Oddly I recently had chocolate after a looong period without , generally I dislike chocolate anyway but I was given a large bag of M&M peanuts , it really distroyed me for a few days . I did some reasearch on line , I found out this is not all that uncommon & coffee can have a similar reaction possibly due to copper content in nuts chocolate & coffee too , if your body already has a high copper content this can push you over the edge , I have know for a loong time that I have a violent reaction to coffee so now chocolate is on my no go list too :2thumbs:
I lost a friend just a couple weeks ago. I was floored! Of course by his decision, but also because I had been thinking the same. I cannot explain the gut wrench to be there for his brother and family. We are a tight knit group of guys. I can't help but think I should've made a difference..
My pain is better now, only due to daily morphine and pharmies. To anyone: Life is a battle. And in war you buddy up. It helps to talk about it...And once you start you're on your way.
Yep, had buddies inside a restaraunt drinking coffee at 5:00pm. Stupid kid pulled out in front of a semi as the semi was coming down an off ramp. Truck driver swerved and clipped the front of the car and plowed throught the restaurant. Killed one instantly, and the other a week later. The one that was killed instantly, I can still hear him call my name out. That happened a month a go.
That is terrible :rotz:
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Here's what I posted when it happened.
http://www.dodgecharger.com/forum/index.php/topic,96074.0.html
I nominate djcarguy's post for Best Post Ever.
It doesn't matter who you reach out to for help - family, friends, counselors, medical professionals - just ask for help and it will surely come.
May we all find peace.
Neal
Anyone that posts their problems are a winner :2thumbs: They have come to the realization that they have a problem and want the help. That's the first step to a healthy recovery. :2thumbs:
I couldn't have said it better. Reach out and live, it's worth it!
Quote from: Neal_J on November 13, 2012, 01:43:12 PM
I nominate djcarguy's post for Best Post Ever.
It doesn't matter who you reach out to for help - family, friends, counselors, medical professionals - just ask for help and it will surely come.
May we all find peace.
Neal
I second that.
Quote from: Ranger Max on November 13, 2012, 01:33:10 PM
I have been working on these problems all my life and it just seems like one step forward two steps back.
Chryco will relate......we already have 2 feet of snow here in Great Falls MT.
After reading some of your posts, I really need a geographical change. I think it would do me a world of good.
I have a lot of great stuff happening in my life, - really - I should be doing back flips but just don't feel like it.
Sorry to say sometimes hearing bad stuff makes the shoes I am wearing look O.K.
Btw, I will try and post more.
Great Falls is not far south of where I spent a lot of my life ... cold & dark in the winter . Fortunatly you have options available to you I never had , work may be tough but as a US citizen Arizona New Mexico , Nevada , Florida are all options on the mainland + Hawaii , US virgin islands & Puerto Rico etc .
I would not wait , I have moved around so much in my life it no longer scares me at all , you can find good people anywhere & opportunities as well . Come & visit Panama if you are inclined , 12 month summers & 13 hrs of daylight year round kicks ass !
Quote from: skip68 on November 13, 2012, 09:40:18 AM
Time to brake that habit and get to know us idiots. :2thumbs:
Chuck ..........
I just want to say..................speak for yourself! :nana:
Quote from: Fred on November 14, 2012, 05:30:00 PM
Quote from: skip68 on November 13, 2012, 09:40:18 AM
Time to brake that habit and get to know us idiots. :2thumbs:
Chuck ..........
I just want to say..................speak for yourself! :nana:
Yeah, but you'll still listen :nana:
Quote from: stroker400 wedge on November 14, 2012, 05:32:41 PM
Quote from: Fred on November 14, 2012, 05:30:00 PM
Quote from: skip68 on November 13, 2012, 09:40:18 AM
Time to brake that habit and get to know us idiots. :2thumbs:
Chuck ..........
I just want to say..................speak for yourself! :nana:
Yeah, but you'll still listen :nana:
I'm all ears.
Quote from: Neal_J on November 13, 2012, 01:43:12 PM
I nominate djcarguy's post for Best Post Ever.
It doesn't matter who you reach out to for help - family, friends, counselors, medical professionals - just ask for help and it will surely come.
May we all find peace.
Neal
Depression is one of the worst diseases around. Family members have had it for years, and I'm sure it's in my blood. It's always hard to look at the positives when there are so much negatives in your life. I agree 100% that this is the post of the year. Us dumb ass guys are more guilty of keeping things inside without any type of release.
My wife and I saw some "issues" with communication with our 8 year old about a year ago. Our Doc suggested a therapist to "talk things through" and it made leaps and bounds help with our son. I was afraid I was seeing some depression even at such a young age. The therapist helps my son communicate thoughts and feelings more openly and like I said, has changed him to a fun loving kid again. :2thumbs:
I used to think it was just mind over matter until I started getting my anxiety attacks some years back (I'm pretty much over them now). It was terrible. I felt like I couldn't breathe and my clothes felt constricting. I'd be driving down the street and all of a sudden I'd have to pull over and literally rip my shirt off and drive back home again. Couldn't stand any tight clothes, not even jeans and had to run around in track pants and t/shirts. Whether it was all in my head or not, I don't know but I do know there was nothing I could do about it............It just took over my life and I had to live with it. That sort of thing can drive you to suicide for sure. The wife was very understanding, thank God.
talking to someone who creates a theory based on whatever you tell them is not help, is $250 hr down the drain, each person must decide whats best for themselves, no matter what the subject in life, there comes a point of diminishing returns, only that individual person can decide when its not worth the trouble anymore
anyone that thinks suicide is the "easy" way out hasn't done it, that's why there are so many failed suicides each year, it takes enormous willpower to overcome the human minds will to live. Don't think so??
call the ambulance and just lay down in a tub full of water, your mind will reject the idea of what your doing even though you "know" that help is already 2 blocks away
the only thing you can do is thank that person for the time they gave you on this earth and make YOUR next decision, don't try to "make sense" of THEIR decision
i'll catch flak for this post but we're all entitled to an opinion, even if it's not popular, just don't make YOUR opinion a law for OTHERS to live by
Quote from: mauve66 on November 14, 2012, 08:34:39 PM
talking to someone who creates a theory based on whatever you tell them is not help, is $250 hr down the drain, each person must decide whats best for themselves, no matter what the subject in life, there comes a point of diminishing returns, only that individual person can decide when its not worth the trouble anymore
anyone that thinks suicide is the "easy" way out hasn't done it, that's why there are so many failed suicides each year, it takes enormous willpower to overcome the human minds will to live. Don't think so??
call the ambulance and just lay down in a tub full of water, your mind will reject the idea of what your doing even though you "know" that help is already 2 blocks away
the only thing you can do is thank that person for the time they gave you on this earth and make YOUR next decision, don't try to "make sense" of THEIR decision
i'll catch flak for this post but we're all entitled to an opinion, even if it's not popular, just don't make YOUR opinion a law for OTHERS to live by
Agree 110% + a few more
Robert is right to some degree, it can somtimes depend on how willing the sufferer wants to sort their life out, a Docter can only help to some degree and some doctors really don't have the talant to sort out a persons emotions over short periods of time, it's really about how willing the patient is to want to accept change or help.
Inevitably that dark long depression will rear it's ugly head again and if your thoughts were dark before you can bet the darkness will appear again.
But DJCARGUY is a stand up guy ! and he is the kind of person who can make a difference, that was a pretty bold topic to fire up and I'm glad you did it. I honestly beleve there are more people who suffer from depression now more than ever , and suicidal thoughts are probably way higher than we all care to admit....and if that is the case then we need to keep a wider eye open for the friends and family around us that may be suffering quietly.
Thank you for that post !
Ron
SOME GOOD INFO AND REPLYS ON[[[[ DOES ANYONE USE LIGHT THERAPY]]]] THREAD FOR PEOPLE WITH WINTER BLUES AND SADDNESS OR LOSS OF MOTIVATION,,WORTH A READ.
I HAVE BEEN GOING THRU THE HOLIDAY,WINTER FUNK .BUT IN MY 2 YRS HERE HAVE POSTED ABOUT BEING DISABLED,BUT NOT DEPRESSION AND MEDS. WAS FORCED OUT OF WORK 2001 AND COULD NOT GET WORK BECAUSE OF PSHYICAL INJURIES AND OPPERATIONS AND RESTRICTIONS. AND IT TOOKS YEARS AND ALMOST MY LIFE TO FINALLY GET A DOC WHO SAW HOW BAD AND CLOSE I WAS TO CHECKING OUT. STILL TOOK LONG TIME AND LAWYER AND SHRINK TO GET DECLARED UNEMPLOYABLE AND GET DISABLITY. SOME TIMES ONLY THING THAT KEPT ME GOING WAS MY 3 KIDS . I HAVE GOOD AND BAD PERIODS LIKE RIDING SOME KILLER ROLLER COASTER.MARRIED TWICE AND 1 LONG TIME LIV IN ALL FELL APART.JOBS AND BOSSES AND COPS ARE NOT TO UNDERSTANDING. OR WIVES EITHER SOMTIMES.
BUT WITH TIME OF YEAR AND LOSS OF OUR MOPAR BROTHER,I FELT MIGHT BE GOOD FOR ME AND OTHERS IF WE GOT THIS OUT IN OPEN AND BE A SUPPORT TO OTHER MEMBERS.. RIP TO A GREAT GUY,CHARGER STEVE.
MOSTLY ASKING AND ENCOURAGING ALL US SOMETIMES THICK SKULLED ,HE-MAN TO ASK FOR AND EXCEPT SOME HELP AND LIFE CAN GET BETTER AND EVEN OUT THE ROLLER COASTER OF LIFE. :Twocents: DJ
Yeah, try and work your problems out, or at the very least get someone to help you through it. It's not very fun to watch your ol man slice his throat from ear to ear @ age 13.....Trust me, there was a time in my life when I coulda used that SOB.
I just wanted to say very sorry ,no way you should of seen or had to go thru that at young or any age . a girl friend of mine yrs ago got home talked to her dad and he walked into bedroom and shot himself. messed with her mind and would come back fresh as the day it happened. she got some help and is married with kids now.
i had the manic ,multi personality abusive mom and that was without drugs or drinking,and the dad who just stayed busy and gone ,as much as possible. leaving me 3 older brothers an little sis to fend and feed ourselves. me an oldest bro worked for anyone to get away an have money for bikes and later cars.
again sorry Cooter,the stuff people put kids thru is mind blowing sometimes. read lots of your post in 2 yrs ive been here. most of my cars are low dollar starters and built with what i can afford or trade for.take care,dj p.s. my youngest will be 21 in january a son,son 23. my girl 31 with new granbaby are not biologicol ,but dad sence she was 2 yrs old,she treats me better than my bio sons. sons were 8 an 10 when wife devorced me an moved them out of my house. well life can get messy . my dad an oldest bro had lots of 56 ta 59 plys and a hemi desoto.
NEWS FLASH;;;;; GOVERNMENT STUDY ::::: WARNS ABOUT POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS WITH THE MIXING OF TURKEY,,,MEDICATION AND FOOTBALL AND DRINKING:::: THAT COMBINED WITH OVER EATING ,FAMILY AND STRESS MAY CAUSE LOSS OF SELF CONTROL,LONG PERIODS OF BLACK OUTS AND DROOLING:::
EXTREME CAUTIONS IS ADVISED ,,,HAHAHAHA KIDDING HAVE A GOOD TURKEY DAY..........ALSO PLEASE KEEP IN MIND MEDS AND DRINKING CAN BE A VERY BAD COMBO,WITH FAMILY AND STRESSES......... EVEN WITH OUT MEDS,,,
IF FEELING DEPRESSED OR DOWM IN DUMPS-BLUES,,DRINKING CAN TAKE YOU OVER THE EDGE... BEEE CAREFUL AND SAFE,OUT THERE. HAPPY BIRD DAY,WELL NOT FOR THE BIRDS,HAHA.. WHO LIKES DUCKS I HAVE 4 HANGING OUT IN BACK YARD,HAVE BEEN FATTENING THEM UP .FEED THEM LOTS OF OLD APPLES TOO ,FUN TO WATCH DRUCK DUCK,,WADDLE.HAHAHA
HAVE A SAFE DAY, I BEEEEE STAYING HOME WITH HEAD COLD AN CHICKEN DINNER,,NO ENERGY TA CATCH AN FIX A DUCK RIGHT NOW. SEE YA ON THE OTHER SIDE IF YA BELLE ANT IN THE WAY. 3 AM ON COLD MEDS AND LACK OF SLEEP..LATTTERR DJ
I go thru this crap every year. It's sorta job related because of the cyclical nature of the way HAL does business and the end of quarter and end of year crunches. After 30 years it's old.
I can't enjoy any holidays until after new years and by then it's cold and I basically hate January anyway. I hate July just as much cause it's too hot but whatever.
I just end up going to bed early. My life would be easier if I was a bear and slept all winter.
Quote from: BrianShaughnessy on November 22, 2012, 11:32:09 AM
I go thru this crap every year. It's sorta job related because of the cyclical nature of the way HAL does business and the end of quarter and end of year crunches. After 30 years it's old.
I can't enjoy any holidays until after new years and by then it's cold and I basically hate January anyway. I hate July just as much cause it's too hot but whatever.
I just end up going to bed early. My life would be easier if I was a bear and slept all winter.
perfect idea :2thumbs:
I think some of us become a bear in winter that doesn't get to hibernate :flame:
I gotta say that this is a great thread. Im my profession, I have had to take a bunch of suicidal 911 calls and try to help people through it by suicide prevention. As odd as it sounds, I have had to use some of these techniques for my own life. Granted, I have have a couple rough patches in life where the idea has crossed my mind more than once however, there was one time that I did start to act on it and it still haunts me to this very day due to a scar that it left.
I lost my brother to suiside, then the day of the funeral , my Mom . Not a high point in my life to say the least.
I lost my Uncle to suicide. I was only 14 or so and I found him slumped on his bed, rifle beside him and cigarettes scattered all over the floor. He was only 24.
Mrs. Fred
Sad to hear ma'am. I had 2 uncles do the same thing. In addition, I watched someone else try to overdose as well. I didn't know till the next morning of thier intent.
Quote from: stroker400 wedge on November 24, 2012, 03:14:18 AM
Sad to hear ma'am. I had 2 uncles do the same thing. In addition, I watched someone else try to overdose as well. I didn't know till the next morning of thier intent.
You may call me Erika JB.
The sad thing is, absolutely no one in the family saw it coming. He showed no signs of depression or gave any hint that anything was amiss.
Quote from: Fred on November 24, 2012, 03:17:16 AM
Quote from: stroker400 wedge on November 24, 2012, 03:14:18 AM
Sad to hear ma'am. I had 2 uncles do the same thing. In addition, I watched someone else try to overdose as well. I didn't know till the next morning of thier intent.
You may call me Erika JB.
The sad thing is, absolutely no one in the family saw it coming. He showed no signs of depression or gave any hint that anything was amiss.
I don't know any details on the first one, but the 2nd uncle was in an argument with his wife. From what I hear, it happened quite a bit. One time, they were arguing, he said he'd fix it. He went to the fireplace, pulled off a rifle and blew himself away right in front of her. My opinion, cowards way out.
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Sad to hear ma'am. I had 2 uncles do the same thing. In addition, I watched someone else try to overdose as well. I didn't know till the next morning of thier intent.
You may call me Erika JB.
The sad thing is, absolutely no one in the family saw it coming. He showed no signs of depression or gave any hint that anything was amiss.
I don't know any details on the first one, but the 2nd uncle was in an argument with his wife. From what I hear, it happened quite a bit. One time, they were arguing, he said he'd fix it. He went to the fireplace, pulled off a rifle and blew himself away right in front of her. My opinion, cowards way out.
How terrible for his wife. It's bad enough finding the body after the deed but to witness it happening must be devastating.
The problem is, they are gone but we're left dealing with the aftermath.
Quote from: Fred on November 24, 2012, 03:31:10 AM
Quote from: stroker400 wedge on November 24, 2012, 03:26:48 AM
Quote from: Fred on November 24, 2012, 03:17:16 AM
Quote from: stroker400 wedge on November 24, 2012, 03:14:18 AM
Sad to hear ma'am. I had 2 uncles do the same thing. In addition, I watched someone else try to overdose as well. I didn't know till the next morning of thier intent.
You may call me Erika JB.
The sad thing is, absolutely no one in the family saw it coming. He showed no signs of depression or gave any hint that anything was amiss.
I don't know any details on the first one, but the 2nd uncle was in an argument with his wife. From what I hear, it happened quite a bit. One time, they were arguing, he said he'd fix it. He went to the fireplace, pulled off a rifle and blew himself away right in front of her. My opinion, cowards way out.
How terrible for his wife. It's bad enough finding the body after the deed but to witness it happening must be devastating.
The problem is, they are gone but we're left dealing with the aftermath.
True, but we also get the benefit of learning from thier mistakes. I don't know what become of her, but it wouldn't surprise me if it haunts her. But, that's the price she pays for not finding a better solution. Yelling at each other accomplishes nothing. It's best to know when to walk away.
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Sad to hear ma'am. I had 2 uncles do the same thing. In addition, I watched someone else try to overdose as well. I didn't know till the next morning of thier intent.
You may call me Erika JB.
The sad thing is, absolutely no one in the family saw it coming. He showed no signs of depression or gave any hint that anything was amiss.
I don't know any details on the first one, but the 2nd uncle was in an argument with his wife. From what I hear, it happened quite a bit. One time, they were arguing, he said he'd fix it. He went to the fireplace, pulled off a rifle and blew himself away right in front of her. My opinion, cowards way out.
How terrible for his wife. It's bad enough finding the body after the deed but to witness it happening must be devastating.
The problem is, they are gone but we're left dealing with the aftermath.
I don't know what become of her, but it wouldn't surprise me if it haunts her.
My thoughts exactly.
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Quote from: stroker400 wedge on November 24, 2012, 03:14:18 AM
Sad to hear ma'am. I had 2 uncles do the same thing. In addition, I watched someone else try to overdose as well. I didn't know till the next morning of thier intent.
You may call me Erika JB.
The sad thing is, absolutely no one in the family saw it coming. He showed no signs of depression or gave any hint that anything was amiss.
I don't know any details on the first one, but the 2nd uncle was in an argument with his wife. From what I hear, it happened quite a bit. One time, they were arguing, he said he'd fix it. He went to the fireplace, pulled off a rifle and blew himself away right in front of her. My opinion, cowards way out.
How terrible for his wife. It's bad enough finding the body after the deed but to witness it happening must be devastating.
The problem is, they are gone but we're left dealing with the aftermath.
I don't know what become of her, but it wouldn't surprise me if it haunts her.
My thoughts exactly.
I think we all live with our ghosts. I know I do. I just don't let it bother me. I now know the warning signs, so I can do something about it.
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Sad to hear ma'am. I had 2 uncles do the same thing. In addition, I watched someone else try to overdose as well. I didn't know till the next morning of thier intent.
You may call me Erika JB.
The sad thing is, absolutely no one in the family saw it coming. He showed no signs of depression or gave any hint that anything was amiss.
I don't know any details on the first one, but the 2nd uncle was in an argument with his wife. From what I hear, it happened quite a bit. One time, they were arguing, he said he'd fix it. He went to the fireplace, pulled off a rifle and blew himself away right in front of her. My opinion, cowards way out.
How terrible for his wife. It's bad enough finding the body after the deed but to witness it happening must be devastating.
The problem is, they are gone but we're left dealing with the aftermath.
I don't know what become of her, but it wouldn't surprise me if it haunts her.
My thoughts exactly.
I think we all live with our ghosts. I know I do. I just don't let it bother me. I now know the warning signs, so I can do something about it.
:2thumbs:
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[/quote]I don't know any details on the first one, but the 2nd uncle was in an argument with his wife. From what I hear, it happened quite a bit. One time, they were arguing, he said he'd fix it. He went to the fireplace, pulled off a rifle and blew himself away right in front of her. My opinion, cowards way out.
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POSTER SAYS ,,,,[COWARDS WAY OUT] ===== BUT WE DONOT KNOW WHAT ELSE AND STRESSES WERE ON HIS UNCLES MIND???
PLEASE BE AWARE AND OPEN MINDED,, IF SOMEONE IS ALLREADY DOWN OR DEPRESSED,THE STRAIN OF A FIGHT WITH WIFE OR LOVED ONE CAN BEE THE GRAIN OF SAND THAT PUSHES THEM TO SNAP AND DO SOMETHING DRASTIC AS IN TAKE THEIR OWN LIFE OR FAMILY ,WIFE,OTHERS AROUND THEM.
DEPRESSION CAN SEEM LIKE NEVER ENDING BODY PAIN OR LIKE YOUR LOSING YOUR MIND,AND NO ONE UNDERSTANDS. THE HIGHS THEN THE LOWS OR CRASHES CAN EVEN BEE LONGER AND DEEPER. STRESS AND EMOTIONAL BATTLE WITH LOVED ONES CAN BE VERY HASARDOUS TO YOUR HEALTH AND STABLITY OF YOUR MENTAL STATE. LETS ALL TAKE CARE AND BEE AWARE.HAPPY HOLIDAYS
hope all are doing ok an bracing an prepping for the ,,,,,,,,,HAPPY HOLIDAYS AND GREAT NEW YEAR TA COME??
SAW MY 6 MONTH OLD GRANBABY AND HER FOLKS last nite. she just cryied when i held her so back ta maw.had a good car b.s with son in law.bad news they may move for 5 yr Job few 3 hours away.
WELL MERRY X MAS AND JOLLY NEW YEAR TA YA'' ALS.. HANG IN IT WILL ALL BE BETTTER NEXT,,DECADE :smilielol: :shruggy: :shruggy: :pity: :pity: :cheers: :cheers: :rofl: :Twocents:
I have a SAD light. Unfortunately I'm not up early enough to get to use it, Guess I should try again. I think I'd be better off getting my shop cleaned up and get back out there a weld. That's ultraviolet light right? And I do like to weld! It always put me in a good mood.
This looks like the light I have.
http://www.amazon.ca/Complete-Medical-19079-Day-Light-Classic/dp/B007W85G0W/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&qid=1355275602&sr=8-8
I bought it at a medical place that sells wheel chairs and such. It was years and years ago, and the price I paid may have been at least $30 more then this one.
Quote from: Bobs69 on December 11, 2012, 08:28:39 PM
I have a SAD light. Unfortunately I'm not up early enough to get to use it, Guess I should try again. I think I'd be better off getting my shop cleaned up and get back out there a weld. That's ultraviolet light right? And I do like to weld! It always put me in a good mood.
This looks like the light I have.
http://www.amazon.ca/Complete-Medical-19079-Day-Light-Classic/dp/B007W85G0W/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&qid=1355275602&sr=8-8
I bought it at a medical place that sells wheel chairs and such. It was years and years ago, and the price I paid may have been at least $30 more then this one.
If welding makes you happy, that's what you should do for sure. I'm always turning out something on my lathe. Aside from driving my charger, I'm at my happiest when I'm mucking around on something.
Can't you use your light at night or don't you need to?
I have been a member here for a while, but haven't posted much for a while.
First of, thanks for this post. I am someone that has been struggling pretty badly with depression for the past few years for many reasons. I did very well for a while, but recently I have been having some major issues and started acting on my death wish a few weeks ago.
To give a little past, I used to be a pill addict and have been clean for several years. I used to do drugs to mask childhood and adolescent issues and started chasing that high. I quit cold turkey after almost dying of an overdose in 2008 and can honestly say I have not abused pills since. I have however suffered from severe depression and have wanted to die a lot of times since.
To you guys saying that suicide is a cowards way out, I doubt that you have ever felt the amount of guilt, sorrow, self loathing, and hatred that a lot of deeply depressed people do. There are times that for whatever reason, I know that the way I die is at my own hand. As much as I despise this thought, I feel that eventually it will probably be true. I don't want to act upon it and don't plan to, but when you are in as deep as some people get, you don't have a lot of control. I still have every suicide note I have ever written and I will read them from time to time to reflect on how bad things have been for me. One night in 2009 really stands out. I remember basically that my emotions or demons inside me took over. I wrote three letters and I made a basic noose out of my leather belt and but it around my neck and shut it in the door. was going to use my weight to hold the door shut wedging the belt. I stood there for an hour crying and pleading. at the last moment, it felt like my agency came back and I remember it being a strict question and answer. The time to choose is here, do you want to live or die. It scared the hell out of me because I wasn't in the rite mind. I chose life at that time.
Depression is a dirty devil, and when you succumb to it, you are totally lost. No one truly knows what is going threw someones head or what life events have effected them and how. Don't judge people that have suicidal thoughts. Empathize with them and extend your hand to help. I realize that some peoples choices for how they do it effect far more people than it should and I feel for all involved, but don't write people off just because they took their own life.
I have often thought about calling the suicide hotline while going threw my bad days, but am to embarrassed to make the call for help. This message is a big step towards me overcoming the embarrassment and actually getting help that doesn't cost $150 per hour and then throw you in 72 hour lock down for observation where they treat you like shit.
***EMPATHY***
I'm glad you stepped forward :2thumbs: Realizing you have a problem is the first step to any recovery. I'm glad that you find that you can trust us with your thoughts and emotions. It's a comforting feeling to know your not alone. :pity: Feel free to post here anytime or find a friend on here to talk to. :cheers:
As the origininator of the coward comment, I can clearly say that I've asked myself the meaning of life, and my life in general. But, I've personally watched others around me throw their lives away just because they gave up. I thought about giving up myself, but come to realize there is more to life than what I originally thought. To sit back and enjoy the pleasures of life and all that it has to offer is something that way too many take for granted. I for one, clearly enjoy living every day. :2thumbs:
Hey C Stripes
Good on you for talking about it ! and sharing your life with us.
I may not have gone down as far as yourself but I do know what Utter Dispair feels like, and how progressivly worse it becomes each time it starts.
When My friend Steve Shirly passed it brought up a lot of confusing emotions and for the first time I opened up with a member of this forum and we discussed our depressions, I cant tell you how much better I feel about it now, and for the first time in as long as I can remember I'm kind of excited about Christmas.
It really seems like a weight has been lifted off my soul ....it's actually somthing I can feel and it feels good. Feels like Im ten years back ,Happier and more positive.
I've discussed my depression with a neighbour recently who's young son is suffering with life a bit, and again it helps to talk about it. As for my wife and kids I'm not sure if I can discuss it with them as of yet but maybe the time will come when I can pour out a little more of that Bleakness that overcomes me.
I hope your days get Brighter my friend, .....There is certainly more to live for than there is to die for. We need you to stick around .
Ron
Quote from: C_stripes on December 12, 2012, 02:21:29 AM
I have been a member here for a while, but haven't posted much for a while.
First of, thanks for this post. I am someone that has been struggling pretty badly with depression for the past few years for many reasons. I did very well for a while, but recently I have been having some major issues and started acting on my death wish a few weeks ago.
To give a little past, I used to be a pill addict and have been clean for several years. I used to do drugs to mask childhood and adolescent issues and started chasing that high. I quit cold turkey after almost dying of an overdose in 2008 and can honestly say I have not abused pills since. I have however suffered from severe depression and have wanted to die a lot of times since.
To you guys saying that suicide is a cowards way out, I doubt that you have ever felt the amount of guilt, sorrow, self loathing, and hatred that a lot of deeply depressed people do. There are times that for whatever reason, I know that the way I die is at my own hand. As much as I despise this thought, I feel that eventually it will probably be true. I don't want to act upon it and don't plan to, but when you are in as deep as some people get, you don't have a lot of control. I still have every suicide note I have ever written and I will read them from time to time to reflect on how bad things have been for me. One night in 2009 really stands out. I remember basically that my emotions or demons inside me took over. I wrote three letters and I made a basic noose out of my leather belt and but it around my neck and shut it in the door. was going to use my weight to hold the door shut wedging the belt. I stood there for an hour crying and pleading. at the last moment, it felt like my agency came back and I remember it being a strict question and answer. The time to choose is here, do you want to live or die. It scared the hell out of me because I wasn't in the rite mind. I chose life at that time.
Depression is a dirty devil, and when you succumb to it, you are totally lost. No one truly knows what is going threw someones head or what life events have effected them and how. Don't judge people that have suicidal thoughts. Empathize with them and extend your hand to help. I realize that some peoples choices for how they do it effect far more people than it should and I feel for all involved, but don't write people off just because they took their own life.
I have often thought about calling the suicide hotline while going threw my bad days, but am to embarrassed to make the call for help. This message is a big step towards me overcoming the embarrassment and actually getting help that doesn't cost $150 per hour and then throw you in 72 hour lock down for observation where they treat you like shit.
***EMPATHY***
Thank you for sharing. Looks to me that you are quite the opposite of a coward. I say use the lamp, anywhere. Even if you can't do it first thing in the morning, try it at night, during your lunch break, whatever. If it doesn't help then so be it, but at least you've tried.
I've been looking at that same model, I may get it.
Thank you all for your responses here and via PM.
For the most part, I am doing pretty decent rite now. One of the major reasons that my life has declined emotionally recently is that I moved over 700 miles away from everything and everyone I know. I just moved to Portland, OR from Utah and really don't know anyone here. So it gets pretty depressing a lot of times. I sure do love this area though. I am flying home for Christmas and this is the first Christmas in a LOOONG time that I am very excited about. It will also be the first time I get to see any of my family or friends since mid August. I am trying to put together some money to buy a nice bicycle so that I can ride to clear my mind and to get into shape, both things will be great for my depression. I, for the most part, have gotten completely out of cars and don't have any cars or parts at all. This is also somewhat depressing as I have been playing with them nonstop for over half my life. But I am excited (or trying to be) about trying new things. I know once I get a bike, things will look up for me.
I empathize with those of you who are having a hard time, please feel free to message me and we can talk. I know that opening up about it is about the best thing you can do. I have an aunt who I am very close to that has been my saving grace more than once, and a young cousin that very much looks up to me and the thought of exiting this way and him knowing that really disturbs me. I urge you to find someone to talk to and to find things that urge you to live. Some nights, those might be the only things that pull you threw. I have wanted to get help, I have tried to get help, but our minds and egos make it very difficult.
And again, to those people that look at (all) suicidal people as weak, don't! A lot of us don't even understand what the problem is or why we are depressed.
And everyone remember, there is always hope. Even for a lost soul like me. Keep a good attitude and live life for today. Be happy and think of those sunny days doing what you enjoy.
Quote from: Fred on December 11, 2012, 08:38:23 PM
Quote from: Bobs69 on December 11, 2012, 08:28:39 PM
I have a SAD light. Unfortunately I'm not up early enough to get to use it, Guess I should try again. I think I'd be better off getting my shop cleaned up and get back out there a weld. That's ultraviolet light right? And I do like to weld! It always put me in a good mood.
This looks like the light I have.
http://www.amazon.ca/Complete-Medical-19079-Day-Light-Classic/dp/B007W85G0W/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&qid=1355275602&sr=8-8
I bought it at a medical place that sells wheel chairs and such. It was years and years ago, and the price I paid may have been at least $30 more then this one.
If welding makes you happy, that's what you should do for sure. I'm always turning out something on my lathe. Aside from driving my charger, I'm at my happiest when I'm mucking around on something.
Can't you use your light at night or don't you need to?
You can't use the light at night. They say it will keep you awake, make you irratible.
The light is recommended I think for shift workers. And since that's me I forget who else. Other then people who suffer from the winter blues, like me as well.
It is suppose to help reset your "Circadian clock." http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Circadian_clock
So you can imagine, people who don't see the light in the morning and work indoors. I think the Inuit have the highest rate of suicide.
Sometimes I would go tanning in the winter, oil yourself up listen to music and pretend you are on a nice beach.
Your internal circadian clock or rythm is thrown off and the light is suppose to help you with it. You get vitamins from the sun. D I think. And the sun prompts your body into producing chemicals and that's about all I can honestly say I know.
Hey, even Superman got his strength from the sun.
Thanks for the info Bobs69. That was an interesting read. I have heard about the high suicide rate of Inuit's (I think that's correctly written) and it's terribly sad.
I don't pretend to know what you're going through, I only know that life sure can be difficult at times, no doubt about it. So you need to do whatever it takes to help improve your situation.
I wish you well.
Happy holidays and too a better New year. :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :cheers: if ya made it this far in to the year,hangin and see what great and wonderful things the new year has too bring??? :2thumbs:
if its not going so good ,call,message or reach out and grab someone and talk and ask for help,please???
here's hopeing for a better year and some sunny days soon,i hope. take care and stay warm and healthy out there in your part of the big old world.. :cheers: :cheers: :cheers: :cheers: :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :popcrn: :popcrn: :popcrn: :cheers: :yesnod: :eyes: :icon_smile_cool: ::) :o :D :D :smilielol: :lol: :icon_smile_wink: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :coolgleamA:
wellmade it too another year,, i guess any signs it will bee better this new?????? not off ta a gooode start soo far,,got fever and head cold,coff and wind pipe blocks off .to sick to go to store ,,so son after days got me ,Nite-time cold meds and coff drops ,,so he can sleep,,he said ,haha...................... when on all the meds and vick and can get few hours sleep and then wake with coff fit and cant breathe,ribs hurt and temp is spiking again. had bout same crap at thanksgiving,,,,,,,,sick of being sick ,i sound like a plugged up fish tank filter. oh well in 3 ta 6 months we will get a few nice days here in orgon.........................
was looking to suport ending this month and and found 2acers with big shop and apartnent ,but bank says no till kid support is proven over and i sell my house????????
well iam sick an depressed and going to meds up and get some sleep,,,,will all bee better next year????haha oh this is next year ant it?????????????? knew 2013 would suck and sure wood never buy a car with 13 in the year made???????????????? see ya-dj
Drink some oj, take a hot shower to clear your nose, and you'll be out in no time. Take it easy, and get to feeling better dj :pity: Worry about the other stuff another time. Get some sleep buddy :2thumbs:
Thought I would give a heads up on Mucinex being that it's flu season and the topic here is depression.
Over Christmas, I got hit by the flu and eneded up at the doctor. He prescribed some antibiotic and also gave me Mucinex D 1200 mg due to severe congestion.
After taking the first dose of Mucinex, within a couple hours I could finally breathe.
But the next day I woke up feeling kind of gloomy and just blamed it on the flu/cold symptoms. Went to bed in a foul mood and woke up the following day really bummed out.
Just felt depressed and dark, moody and very irritable. Still thinking it was just the holiday blues along with being sick.
Day 3: Woke up but really didn't want to get out of bed. Felt really gloomy, almost hateful. Knew at that point, somethings not right so I went online and Googled Mucinex D.
Apparently a lot of people have suffered from these same symptoms along with thoughts of suicide, vivid nightmares, severe depression, etc. from taking Mucinex.
Just something to be aware of.
Get well soon DJ, it will get better. I have kind of been sinking again and part of it is I know I am getting sick. The last few days have been a little dark and gloomy out here. I find that green tea makes me feel better, just a thought. To make everything worse, broke up with my kind of girl friend. So that sucks and I am out of my medication and my insurance cards haven't shown up yet. Then I get all pissed off about being pissed off because there are people out there that have real problems and I bitch about that. Depression is a sick circle. On a good note, a friend from Utah is coming up next week and we are going to go check out grave yard carz.
Life will get better man, just keep working for it.
Hey, Just wanted to check in and see how everyone is doing?
Doing pretty good here, for the most part. Had an awesome week last week and been doing what I can to enjoy myself. Life is a bit gloomy, but good. I just took on a huge project(as if my life wasn't complicated enough) and now have a 67 Coronet R/T that I need to figure out what to do with.
Good news though, Soccer season is upon us and I will finally get to go watch the timbers play. Got to watch them practice a little last week.
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Also went downtown to a place called the Montage. Kind of a shady area, but I find everything cool in Portland is, :) and ate frog legs and alligator gumbo. MMMM was it good.
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Also, not sure if anyone has Cider bars around them, but Cider is F**KING AWESOME!!!!! MMM and it gets you buzzed pretty quickly.
It was a little cold downtown, but was still a lot of fun walking around and exploring the awesomeness of Portland, OR.
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If you watch Portlandia, you will know this sign.
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Peace out all, be happy and remember that summer is coming.
~Jeremy
frog legs are simply amazing :2thumbs:
Jeremy, we gotta hook up some time. We've talked about getting season tix for the Timbers.
I'm currently sitting at my daughter's soccer practice. She plays for the Vancouver Timbers, they're part of the Timbers Alliance with a couple local PDX top clubs. They're currently rated #1 in the premier level @ U12 in Washington/Oregon.
Ya, for sure. Show season is about to start, so we will have to check a few places out. I would love to see your Charger.
I really want to check out a few Timbers games this year. It should be fun.
Thats great that your daughter is on the #1 team in the area.
Go Timbers! I was born in Portland.......St.Vincent Hospital, if its still there. I was only there for a year or so before we moved to Calidickedupia. I clearly remember my grandmother taking me to the Rose Garden Park. Is that right? I remember the roses........love them to this day and have always grown them. Weird huh?
Yeah, I think it's called the Rose Garden (http://www.rosegardenstore.org/).
The Portland TrailBlazers stadium is also called that.
I used to take relatives/friends there when they visited.
Well have been depressed and stressed out, trying to end the kid support as kid is 21 now. Knew my family doc was no longer in the same building as it is all closed down.called and got location but appointment gal says hes not seeing new people,he was my doc for over 20 yrs. but as i have not seen him in afew years,iam on a list to see if he will see me??
told her i need to see doc and get back on antidepressants ,was told if they dont call back in a week ,call them?? and if in really bad shape go to the emergency room? what 500 ta 1500 for er visit and if answer suiside question honusly maybe get a 72 hour lockup,no thanks. my head doc ,shrink is only in office 1 1/2 days a week an is bout $200 for 20 minutes of his time an hour wait to get in office..an have to wait weeks for app.
trying to just stay busy with this site and tv shows as a distraction and avoiding all stress . like the phone and door bell or going out in public... its raining again---------lattter dj
Dj. Stay focused bud , stay off the dark roads and find a path that leads you to a brighter place, you know what you need to do bud, find a way to bring yourself up.
Pm sent
Ron
DJ, if you need to chat. PM me. You are not alone here. Stay strong. :2thumbs:
Quote from: djcarguy on February 17, 2013, 08:22:58 AM
Well have been depressed and stressed out, trying to end the kid support as kid is 21 now. Knew my doc was no longer in the same building as it is all closed down.called and got location but appointment gal says hes not seeing new people,he was my doc for over 20 yrs. but as i have not seen him in afew years,iam on a list to see if he will see me??
told her i need to see doc and get back on antidepressants ,was told if they dont call back in a week ,call them?? and if in really bad shape go to the emergency room? what 500 ta 1500 for er visit and if answer suiside question honusly maybe get a 72 hour lockup,no thanks. my head doc is only in office 1 1/2 days a week an is bout $200 for 20 minutes of his time an hour wait to get in office..an have to wait weeks for app.
trying to just stay busy with this site and tv shows as a distraction and avoiding all stress . like the phone and door bell or going out in public... its raining again---------lattter dj
Thats insane, that kind of money to see a Dr to get some help....wow!!!...No free helplines for you to call, it helps a to talk to a stranger...Keep busy...don't drink....be better soon!
Sit back and take it easy DJ :cheers: No sense in worrying. Get out of the house and go for a drive. Go to the movies or browse the mall or Home Depot. Find someone to hangout with. Plenty of things to do besides sitting at home worrying about what bothers you.
Think happy thoughts :cheers: :woohoo: :grouphug: We're here for you :icon_smile_wink:
JB :2thumbs:
DJ, you need a hooker! :icon_smile_wink: :drool5: :yesnod: :yesnod: :yesnod: :yesnod: :yesnod:
Hey DJ,
Chin up my friend. I've been going through some shit too, but just started some meds this week. I was also worried about going to 72 hour lock down when talking to the Dr. I hated answering some of his questions and even more so, hates some of his answers. But in the long run, I know it will be for the best. It is crazy how much it costs to go to the Dr.s. I wish there was cheaper help.
I may be down there next weekend. If I get down there, lets go have lunch or something.
Be happy man, go listen to some good music and enjoy what you love. My favorite album to listen to when I am down is Green Day Dookie. Not sure why, other than I used to listen to them when I was young and happy and it takes me back. :)
Have a good day and PM me if you need anything.
~JKM
Quote from: skip68 on February 17, 2013, 12:18:19 PM
DJ, you need a hooker! :icon_smile_wink: :drool5: :yesnod: :yesnod: :yesnod: :yesnod: :yesnod:
Skip stop hitting on him
thanks jackie an guys for support an ideas. not sure maybe hooker-stds-itching an burning wood take my mind off life,creative idea skippy?????????
i leave this putor box on too block phone and taped over door bell . put my signS back out front says,,,,,,NO TRESSPASSING NO SALES NO POLITICAL JUNK NO CHURCH INFO OR LEAFLETS..............
HAVE A NICE DAY AND GO AWAY................
FOUND SOME FEW YEAR OLD MEDS IN TRAVEL BAG AN STARTED WITH HALF PILL AS HAVE TO START LOW DOSE AND WORK UP TO EASE THE SIDE AFFECTS AN LET BODY ADJUST.CAN GET MASSIVE HEAD ACKES AND DARK IDEAS.
WONDERED IN BACK YARD,FEED THE BIRDS AND LAYED ON HOOD OF DART IN THE SUN FOR AWHILE, KINDA CHILLY. WILL BEE 54 IN MAY AND DEALING WITH THIS FOR DECADES IS OLD. WILL WORK ON IT AN HAVE PLAN FOR YEAR 1ST AFTER 13 YRS OF KID SUPPORT,,,ITS MY TURN ME AN MY CARS. THANKS LATER DJ,,OH SORRY FORGOT CAPS AGAIN ..LATTTTER dj
It's definitely your turn DJ.
Hang on to that thought and make it come true. :2thumbs:
Please watch out for that old medication. If it's past the use by date I wouldn't advise taking it, you could have an adverse reaction.
You think it's hard to get into your Dr. now, wait until this Obamacare starts up. We're already a country short on Dr.s' & it's about to get a lot worse.
The Dr. I'd been seeing for years joined a program that instead of only spending 10 minutes per patient & herding them in & out of the office he accepts 400 patients who pay $1600 @ year to see him for up to a half an hour per visit.
Must be working cause he has a waiting list.
for the medicare they take $105 a month if ya use it or not and some high deduc i never reached.$1260 a yr out of disablity checks??? for the base plan ,when the time comes for old age care what ya do if not rich or goverment retiree??
but now Doctor can sell club memberships too ya for $1600 a yr ,that is extorsion or should be illegal.. 400 members at 1600 each is $$$$$$640,000 DOLLARS ayr to them . bet they still pad the bill to insurance too.
STREssed and cant sleep did get app for next month with doc ,2weeks to get meds and 2ta 4 weeks to work up to a dose that will do any good.so may feel better in 6 weeks or so . i always did better in summer time and car show season..
Dealing with the death of my favorite aunt,,Miranda but she was Ruth most all my life an was way nicer to me and my siblins then my mom was.SHE moms sister 1 of 8 ,2 left mom an uncle denny,a car guy too.
SHe was a fun aunt and into cars. she got a brand new 65 mustang with stick shift and took us kids for ride and treats had it repaired and paint afew times . but after 20 years it got totalled out,,so she got a 67 cougar and she cared for and bragged how much better the cougar was than that mustang. she had the cougar like 15 yrs and got a 66dart for yrs then a in like 2005 some new ,,,more dependable dodge shadow? that the paint blew off going down the road. she would kid she drove too fast an the paint blew off.she also use to go an ride motorbikes with her boy friend . but one day his new engine locked up ,dumped him on burnside in portland and messed him up for life.she never rode again an they broke up. its a shame she had no kids,ruth was fun and always good to me an my kids. will miss her and talken cars,she an granmaw loved riding in my 67 belvedere ragtop.gram said she felt like royalty riding in an being driven around in a classy convertible ,like the rich an famous.sure miss them both and my dad . aunts life celebration party is few days after my Doc app.no time for meds ta work and few hrs on freeway ta get ta portland. may go day before an stay at my brothers an ride with him in that traffic with my eyes shut.kinda long,thanks for no negative reply,,please....lattttter dj aka rusty.aunt called me smilely,RIP AUNTY :D
sorry to hear about your loss, DJ. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. :angel:
Quote from: djcarguy on November 16, 2012, 07:27:42 AM
SOME GOOD INFO AND REPLYS ON[[[[ DOES ANYONE USE LIGHT THERAPY]]]] THREAD FOR PEOPLE WITH WINTER BLUES AND SADDNESS OR LOSS OF MOTIVATION,,WORTH A READ.
I HAVE BEEN GOING THRU THE HOLIDAY,WINTER FUNK .BUT IN MY 2 YRS HERE HAVE POSTED ABOUT BEING DISABLED,BUT NOT DEPRESSION AND MEDS. WAS FORCED OUT OF WORK 2001 AND COULD NOT GET WORK BECAUSE OF PSHYICAL INJURIES AND OPPERATIONS AND RESTRICTIONS. AND IT TOOKS YEARS AND ALMOST MY LIFE TO FINALLY GET A DOC WHO SAW HOW BAD AND CLOSE I WAS TO CHECKING OUT. STILL TOOK LONG TIME AND LAWYER AND SHRINK TO GET DECLARED UNEMPLOYABLE AND GET DISABLITY. SOME TIMES ONLY THING THAT KEPT ME GOING WAS MY 3 KIDS . I HAVE GOOD AND BAD PERIODS LIKE RIDING SOME KILLER ROLLER COASTER.MARRIED TWICE AND 1 LONG TIME LIV IN ALL FELL APART.JOBS AND BOSSES AND COPS ARE NOT TO UNDERSTANDING. OR WIVES EITHER SOMTIMES.
BUT WITH TIME OF YEAR AND LOSS OF OUR MOPAR BROTHER,I FELT MIGHT BE GOOD FOR ME AND OTHERS IF WE GOT THIS OUT IN OPEN AND BE A SUPPORT TO OTHER MEMBERS.. RIP TO A GREAT GUY,CHARGER STEVE.
MOSTLY ASKING AND ENCOURAGING ALL US SOMETIMES THICK SKULLED ,HE-MAN TO ASK FOR AND EXCEPT SOME HELP AND LIFE CAN GET BETTER AND EVEN OUT THE ROLLER COASTER OF LIFE. :Twocents: DJ
Quote from: djcarguy on February 21, 2013, 06:02:08 AM
STREssed and cant sleep did get app for next month with doc ,2weeks to get meds and 2ta 4 weeks to work up to a dose that will do any good.so may feel better in 6 weeks or so . i always did better in summer time and car show season..
Dealing with the death of my favorite aunt,,Miranda but she was Ruth most all my life an was way nicer to me and my siblins then my mom was.SHE moms sister 1 of 8 ,2 left mom an uncle denny,a car guy too.
SHe was a fun aunt and into cars. she got a brand new 65 mustang with stick shift and took us kids for ride and treats had it repaired and paint afew times . but after 20 years it got totalled out,,so she got a 67 cougar and she cared for and bragged how much better the cougar was than that mustang. she had the cougar like 15 yrs and got a 66dart for yrs then a in like 2005 some new ,,,more dependable dodge shadow? that the paint blew off going down the road. she would kid she drove too fast an the paint blew off.she also use to go an ride motorbikes with her boy friend . but one day his new engine locked up ,dumped him on burnside in portland and messed him up for life.she never rode again an they broke up. its a shame she had no kids,ruth was fun and always good to me an my kids. will miss her and talken cars,she an granmaw loved riding in my 67 belvedere ragtop.gram said she felt like royalty riding in an being driven around in a classy convertible ,like the rich an famous.sure miss them both and my dad . aunts life celebration party is few days after my Doc app.no time for meds ta work and few hrs on freeway ta get ta portland. may go day before an stay at my brothers an ride with him in that traffic with my eyes shut.kinda long,thanks for no negative reply,,please....lattttter dj aka rusty.aunt called me smilely,RIP AUNTY :D
aunt ruth, i talked to her on phone early dec she was in a great mood an hopeful bout her cancer an treatment. in her mid 70es she had the colon camera ,movie screen test . had colon opperation and they found cancer and had afew cancer treatments an was hopeful an wanting to get home. but enjoying staying an being cared for by my aunt jeanie her sister inlaw an friend of 50 yrs. i called few days after xmas she sound good but tired and said no dont come up,shes fine just tired come when she is home at her place.
we talked bout kids an family and my cars an summer plans to get my 67 ragtop out this summer . how justin my youngest was turning 21 an support wood end ,she didnt think he could be 21 all ready ,kidded she was not old enough for me too have kids that old . talked over an hour ,bout doing new roof on my house and car plans .how she needs to get better and come down for visit and ride in the convertable wood put some color in her cheeks. she said if all goes good she wood bee down in june for that ride an visit ,on way to moms.
bout 2 weeks after our talk she passed away ,she knew the cancer had gone too her lungs when we talked but never said aword about it too any of us .only aunt jeanie, an her brother denny knew as she wood not let them tell the bad news at the holidays. ruth passed mid january ,life party is next week end . family thing is too meet at her house and help clear it so it can be sold. what ever family does not want will be sold or donated as she had no kids and never married. if she still had one of her old mopars or fords i wood buy it,but sadly they are long gone now.have asked for old pix with the cars and any car stuff. take care ,still hangin in,,DJ see doc in few days hopfully get back on anti-depressents,not eating or sleeping till i just fad out in front of tv or at this box.lattter dj
better go get you something to eat dj.
DJ, please try to keep your spirits up . All your friends are here for you . :2thumbs: now get off your butt and go get something to eat. It will make you feel better just to move around. Trust me, I know. :pity:
saw ,doc got pills tuesday. leave sat for aunts memorial ,if i get car an me lined out. maybe gone few weeks.plan to go up to uncles near tacoma,little town Sumner,wa.
take care,lattter.dj
Hey DJ, glad to hear you're getting out and about :woohoo: :vert: :drive: Sad to hear it's to go to a funeral though :pity: Anyway, it'll do you some good to get out of the house and see family. You should be able to enjoy it.
Condolences to you and your family about your aunt :angel:
Quote from: djcarguy on November 13, 2012, 04:07:47 AM
DEPRESSION, OR WINTER BLUES AND SAD TIME THAT LAST,,, PLEASE ASK DOC AND FAMILY OR FRIENDS FOR HELP.
THIS HAS BEEN ON MY MIND ALOT THIS LAST WEEK . IF YOU ARE FEELING DOWN AND SAD,PLEASE REACH OUT.
I HAVE LOST FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND BEEN THRU THIS FOR YEARS MYSELF 30 SOME. NOW MEDS LAST 16 YRS.
PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE ,AND IF ANY DARK IDEAS OR MOODS LAST REACH OUT FOR HELP. THE MIND IS THICKY AND WE CAN NOT JUST WILL THINGS BETTER,OR JUST SNAP OUT OF IT.
SO PLEASE ASK AND GET HELP ,AND THINGS CAN GET BETTER. I AM VERY CONCERNED LATLY BOUT THIS AND THE TIMES AND STRESSES PEOPLE ARE DEALING WITH,THESE DAYS... OK TO PM ME IF YOU DONT WANT TO REPLY IN OPEN ,ITS OK.LATTTER DAVID J WE CAN ALL USE A FRIEND OR HAND SOMETIMES : :2thumbs:
Quote from: djcarguy on November 16, 2012, 07:27:42 AM
SOME GOOD INFO AND REPLYS ON[[[[ DOES ANYONE USE LIGHT THERAPY]]]] THREAD FOR PEOPLE WITH WINTER BLUES AND SADDNESS OR LOSS OF MOTIVATION,,WORTH A READ.
I HAVE BEEN GOING THRU THE HOLIDAY,WINTER FUNK .BUT IN MY 2 YRS HERE HAVE POSTED ABOUT BEING DISABLED,BUT NOT DEPRESSION AND MEDS. WAS FORCED OUT OF WORK 2001 AND COULD NOT GET WORK BECAUSE OF PSHYICAL INJURIES AND OPPERATIONS AND RESTRICTIONS. AND IT TOOKS YEARS AND ALMOST MY LIFE TO FINALLY GET A DOC WHO SAW HOW BAD AND CLOSE I WAS TO CHECKING OUT. STILL TOOK LONG TIME AND LAWYER AND SHRINK TO GET DECLARED UNEMPLOYABLE AND GET DISABLITY. SOME TIMES ONLY THING THAT KEPT ME GOING WAS MY 3 KIDS . I HAVE GOOD AND BAD PERIODS LIKE RIDING SOME KILLER ROLLER COASTER.MARRIED TWICE AND 1 LONG TIME LIV IN ALL FELL APART.JOBS AND BOSSES AND COPS ARE NOT TO UNDERSTANDING. OR WIVES EITHER SOMTIMES.
BUT WITH TIME OF YEAR AND LOSS OF OUR MOPAR BROTHER,I FELT MIGHT BE GOOD FOR ME AND OTHERS IF WE GOT THIS OUT IN OPEN AND BE A SUPPORT TO OTHER MEMBERS.. RIP TO A GREAT GUY,CHARGER STEVE.
MOSTLY ASKING AND ENCOURAGING ALL US SOMETIMES THICK SKULLED ,HE-MAN TO ASK FOR AND EXCEPT SOME HELP AND LIFE CAN GET BETTER AND EVEN OUT THE ROLLER COASTER OF LIFE. :Twocents: DJ
Quote from: Neal_J on November 13, 2012, 01:43:12 PMsup][/sup]
It doesn't matter who you reach out to for help - family, friends, counselors, medical professionals - just ask for help and it will surely come.
May we all find peace.
Neal
something to cheer everyone up (pic deleted)
I'm thinking maybe that could just as easily have the opposite effect. :scratchchin:
Quote from: djcarguy on April 09, 2013, 06:12:54 AM
Quote from: djcarguy on November 13, 2012, 04:07:47 AM
DEPRESSION, OR WINTER BLUES AND SAD TIME THAT LAST,,, PLEASE ASK DOC AND FAMILY OR FRIENDS FOR HELP.
THIS HAS BEEN ON MY MIND ALOT THIS LAST WEEK . IF YOU ARE FEELING DOWN AND SAD,PLEASE REACH OUT.
I HAVE LOST FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND BEEN THRU THIS FOR YEARS MYSELF 30 SOME. NOW MEDS LAST 16 YRS.
PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE ,AND IF ANY DARK IDEAS OR MOODS LAST REACH OUT FOR HELP. THE MIND IS THICKY AND WE CAN NOT JUST WILL THINGS BETTER,OR JUST SNAP OUT OF IT.
SO PLEASE ASK AND GET HELP ,AND THINGS CAN GET BETTER. I AM VERY CONCERNED LATLY BOUT THIS AND THE TIMES AND STRESSES PEOPLE ARE DEALING WITH,THESE DAYS... OK TO PM ME IF YOU DONT WANT TO REPLY IN OPEN ,ITS OK.LATTTER DAVID J WE CAN ALL USE A FRIEND OR HAND SOMETIMES : :2thumbs:
Summer is over in Oregon we had few days in 70es an 2 in mid 80es.. now 2 weeks of rain and news says snow in the mountains,like 3 inch rain in the valley this week.
real bad an sad news bout Oaklahoma and my heart goes out too all the family's and kids.
the 19th was my granbaby Joanna's 1st birth day,cant believe its a year all ready. party with bout 30 people at thier house was good.but above my comfort level so i spent it in the garage looking at son in laws new paint 68 chevelle SS and 64 falcon and sitting back yard with few of the guys talking cars and guns. i was last too leave so had some time with my girl and granbaby an son n law.was very good over all an left with a full belly. my birthday is the 26th seven days after Joanna's . have a coupon for free dinner at some mexican place and may get the b-day mini pizza at round table and watch some races sunday.did my mowing an clean up few weeks ago an have been in lots of pain sence,back,ribs and knees.2 weeks of pills and sleep when i can. been on meds for depression few months ,less nervous and stressed ,but kinda feel like a zombee with a head fog mild headache. well hope for some more summer and hope too get too a few car shows... take care out there an drive safe.............dj :shruggy: ;)
Hey Dj. Hopefully you can get your dosages down enough to where you feel less zombie like , that will help. I can read in your posts that your pushing thru all this and that posative attidude will keep you moving forward, and that is really important, getting stuck not going to help you.
Find a way to smile my friend, and smile everday ! Whatever it takes.
Take care
Ron
DJ, The weather this year is kinda crazy but, rest assured, summer is not over yet! Your area will get some nice weather soon enough. I know, especially up where you live, the weather can have a huge influence on a person but, don't let the gloomy weather get you down. Pretty weather will get to you any time now.
Happy to hear you had a nice Birthday visit with your granddaughter. With your birthday coming up, treat yourself to something different for once. Just be sure to get out of the house for a while and be around a few people, even if you are not interacting with them. Sometimes just going somewhere where you are around other people just doing whatever in their daily lives and seeing them without intruding makes me a happier person.
Try cutting back a little on your meds if they make you feel foggy or bad. Doctors tend to overmedicate people in an effort to cure them when there just is not any real way of achieving that. A good freind of mine has known an elderly couple for many years (in their 80's) whom the wife was taking many medications for numerous ailments and had become bedridden and just quit eating. She had become so bad, her husband of 60+ years had reached his limit. He told my friend that she took a lot of medicine and he did not know about any of the side-effects of mixing them but he just couldn't take her being like that any more. She had just become a non-responsive patient in her bed and had quit eating anything. He couldn't get her to even drink an Ensure or likewise nourishment supplement drink! He took her off all the medications and stated it was just going to have to kill her or cure her as he was at his wits end. Well, a year later, she is up and around and feeling better than she has in years.
I am in no way advocating stopping any of your medications but just trying to convey one incident I personally know happened. I am also a firm believer that Doctors just "throw something up against the wall til something sticks" in most cases. I have seen this and been a "victim" of that type of treatment too many times to disregard it.
Just keep on "keepin' on" and life will get better. Happy Birthday to you a little early also !!
i gots a danes wing today older one,but was stressed bout the cash ,but it was awesum haveing it in the front of my driver.cant wait to put it on the dart.allready planning what i can sell to order a nose cone. have had 4 great weekends in a row,waiting for the crash. but the sun is shining and I GOTTS ME A DAYTONA WING,NEVER DRILLED OR MOUNTED OR PRIMED OR PAINTED... WILL drill an mount then deside on finish???
lattter dj,,allso on sugar hi with very little sleep,,,,,,,,time ta zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz :smilielol: :drool5: :coolgleamA:
Congrats on acquiring a wing for the Dartona :2thumbs: Get that baby mounted and post some pix :popcrn: :popcrn: :popcrn:
DJ, hang in there bro. Going through it right now. Stressed ain't the word for it. Been up, quit smoking for about 5 years, and smoked my first again tonight. Might be losing the job this week, Found out my POS house is "Settling" and the roof needed a patch which I did, but didn't really want to. Wind blew my privacy fence over, had to repair that Sat. Then, Cruise night was cancelled due to "mushy" parking lot. I know, brother, I know.
Then, to top it all off, Some mother's will be the perverbial "Sweet little ol lady" right up until they pass. Well, I woulda never thought I had drawn the other.
My daughter goes up to see momma every Sunday. Well, this past Sunday, she decides she's gonna give my daughter what-for. Out of the blue. Course, I gotta hear bout it second and third hand.
Life does have a way of sucking pretty hard sometimes, but I've learned only the strong survive. You gotta be strong bro.
You guys are not alone on this. I know that doesn't help, or mean much. I've gone down hill too, have been fighting it pretty hard, so I think.
DJ, great for you for starting this thread and I hope you know that you have all of our support here. :pity:
Bob, feel free to spill if you feel the need. I'm going to...
About 7 years back I had a work accident that resulted in a blown meniscus and I went from biking 10-20 miles a day to crutching/wheeling around for ovep 2 years. I've had 3 surgeries on my right knee and about 2 years worth of physical therapy. Needless to say I wasn't able to socialize much and slowly visits from friends came fewer and further between as they got sick of me beiny cranky/depressed/drugged out of my mind. All of this led me into a pretty dsrk depression that lasted for about 3 years and right at the end of that 3 years my favorite uncle (he's the one that is the got me into classic cars) passed away suddenly leaving me with a huge hole and a lot of questions... to top that off, the girl I was seeing at the time was on suicide watch and refused to even see me when my uncle passed.
Long story short, I have almost full use of my knee and I can bike/run again (most days) but I still can't shake the depression. I'll go weeks and be just fine and then for some reason (usually knee issues flaring up randomly) I fall back into a slump, lose all motivation, get antisocial, and despressed. I'm currently going through one of those now and finding true friends thay will listen in short supply.
I don't know exactly what I expect here but I need to put my thoughts out there and get them out of my head...
Thanks for sharing. :cheers: Everyone is here to help everyone else out, no matter what the issue is. :2thumbs:
Thanks Stroker, feels good to know that we can all set aside differences to help each other when we need it.
Wishing an hoping a good sunny day to ya alls. here it is sunday an race day an fathers day. its sunny out west an looks to bee a good day to relax and watch some races or go for a drive. i wished my 3 brothers and son in law happy fathers day and ta all ya guys too ,,have a great day. relax,enjoy an LEAVE ANY worring and stress for lattter in the week. i will watch nascar an latter all i can eat spaggetti dinner.
HAVE A GREAT DAY GUYS AN DADS AN GRANPAWS.. :cheers: :popcrn: :2thumbs: :cheers: LATTTER DJ CARGUY :D
Well are we doing great out there? have doc app today an got like a hr sleep finally last nite,but up now . was too see quack in may ,they reset app too june so went an did blood an lab stuff only to find they were reseting app to july. pissed me off an i was too bee out of town so finally it got set aug 8th.been stressing over lab results for 6 weeks . get up this morning too read my car insurance was canseled few days ago,so drive to doc without it.
well got on anti depress meds in march but have not seen the quack sence with all the app resets. last few weeks of may an most of june were good weekends busy with family an car stuff. over did the walking an standing an yard work ,been in neck,back,an knee pain most of july lots of knee pain this week. last saturday 2 car shows an on my knees working on friends car.
will call in few minutes ta see bout reingstate insurance ,or try too get my son or his car for doc app today. well its cloudy an drizzleey in oregon today was mid 90es few days ago 70 yesterday.
tring to enjoy summer an car stuff,did let some crazy gal start e mailing me . swear they just like to play games an mess with our minds. talk of down time in bed and meeting up ,then shes sick or too busy, oh out of phone minutes so cant talk,,,, just a total load of games an BULL CRAPPOLLA. hope ya guys are doing good an enjoy summer an car season. just wrote a note for son too pay me some of his back rent an sent eee to my girl that i need her to start repay the money i loaned her,see how those go over,lead ballons i bet.HANGIN IN :D :D
I think you can quit sending rain here to the Midwest Dj. I have to empty the rain guage after almost every rain, and its been doing this for the last 3 weeks. :brickwall: I guess it beats the alternative normal hot and dry August. :2thumbs:
Glad to hear you're doing well :cheers:
Well, the bright side is the Farmers crops are looking good. The price of everything else reflects a good crop. :cheers:
We're having our first really cold and wet day today since winter started. It's been an easy winter to deal with so far and there's only 3 weeks to go. No complaints.
Just when things were going well again and I could run a 22min 5k, I had a 500+ lb case dropped on my leg while setting up for a festival... now I can barely walk and am in constant pain. I have already had 3 prior surgeries on this knee and I am just hoping I don't have to go in for #4... ugh. :icon_smile_sad:
That's not good news. :pity: Have you had it checked out yet? :popcrn:
It's a WC issue... I can't get anyone to give me a claim number so I can schedule an Appt with a Dr. :brickwall:
Some people sure do cop the brunt of life while other people just sail through it without so much as a hiccup.
Sorry to hear of your woes. Hope you're on top of it again real soon.
Sorry about leg. Running is hard on the back and knees and will lead to total failure. Have you thought about getting on a bicycle ?
Some people do get the brunt of life and Ive accepted that I'm one of them...
I spent about 5 years on the bike and just took up running this year and found it very therapeutic and relaxing. Now I'm back to crutches. :-\
Quote from: ACUDANUT on August 14, 2013, 11:26:29 PM
Sorry about leg. Running is hard on the back and knees and will lead to total failure. Have you thought about getting on a bicycle ?
THIS. Running is something that many of us can't do for an extended period of time. I stopped pounding on my body with running and got on a road-bike; much less of an impact on the body for sure...
And I will most likely wind up on the bike again but for now I can't do much at all... I'm just trying not to let it get to me.
Quote from: tsmithae on August 14, 2013, 03:11:07 PM
It's a WC issue... I can't get anyone to give me a claim number so I can schedule an Appt with a Dr. :brickwall:
Don't wait for the claim number. Get your leg checked out. Tell the doctors what happened and they can get the claim number for you. As long as you reported the accident to your employer, you shouldn't have to wait for a claim number to seek medical attention.
I wound up going to an ER just to get pain meds. In Illinois you can choose your physician but some of them won't do appointments without a claim #.
ER sent me home with a knee immobilizer, crutches, and some of the good stuff.
At least you went. :2thumbs:
Bout 5 am west coast,got few minutes nap here on this canfussion box.been down and bummed out clouds rain an end of car stuff. 1st friday home after 14 fridays at brooks show an shine an gathering at fins drive-in did 1st 6 an 3 near the end in my orange 76 4x4 an few in the nisson. lots of cars an car guys and story telling,,BS stuff.but fun an got me out of this house. went too other shows an car stuff on saturdays an sundays or watched nascar races.had 6-8 good weekends this summer,this is 1st 1 only thing i found too do was watch nascar. it was on my home channel so didnt go too bar to watch,should have wood of at least been round people.been out in back yard few times tonite looking at the stars,was cloudy most of week,,dreading end of summer and short dark days.
still on my meds an doc uped the dose so back to headaches and hazey-zombie feeling till adjust to higher dose. bumming and remembering both my marriages went off deadmans curve labor day time of year. my son21 just signed and passed test for air force,no date for basic yet. an start of october will bee 6 yrs of dad passing. so much stuff an time too think on it is not all ways good i guess. well hangin in, did 9 replys and few pm yesterday an last few days trying too stay busy an my mind distracted from past an negative stuff. sunday will bee tv car stuff and spaggette at the bar with water or pop no can drink with the meds ,had some really bad reactions in the past with drinking. sure cant afford to drink an get busted,a carguy with no license that wood not bee good or cheap. take care out there,,, iam trying ta stay busy or at least sleep thru it.. latter DJ :cheers: :cheers: :P : :P :shruggy: :Twocents:
Quote from: djcarguy on September 08, 2013, 07:24:02 AM
Bout 5 am west coast,got few minutes nap here on this canfussion box.been down and bummed out clouds rain an end of car stuff. 1st friday home after 14 fridays at brooks show an shine an gathering at fins drive-in did 1st 6 an 3 near the end in my orange 76 4x4 an few in the nisson. lots of cars an car guys and story telling,,BS stuff.but fun an got me out of this house. went too other shows an car stuff on saturdays an sundays or watched nascar races.had 6-8 good weekends this summer,this is 1st 1 only thing i found too do was watch nascar. it was on my home channel so didnt go too bar to watch,should have wood of at least been round people.been out in back yard few times tonite looking at the stars,was cloudy most of week,,dreading end of summer and short dark days.
still on my meds an doc uped the dose so back to headaches and hazey-zombie feeling till adjust to higher dose. bumming and remembering both my marriages went off deadmans curve labor day time of year. my son21 just signed and passed test for air force,no date for basic yet. an start of october will bee 6 yrs of dad passing. so much stuff an time too think on it is not all ways good i guess. well hangin in, did 9 replys and few pm yesterday an last few days trying too stay busy an my mind distracted from past an negative stuff. sunday will bee tv car stuff and spaggette at the bar with water or pop no can drink with the meds ,had some really bad reactions in the past with drinking. sure cant afford to drink an get busted,a carguy with no license that wood not bee good or cheap. take care out there,,, iam trying ta stay busy or at least sleep thru it.. latter DJ :cheers: :cheers: :P : :P :shruggy: :Twocents:
If you're looking to keep busy, join in some of the game threads here. They will keep your mind occupied for hours if you want. :2thumbs:
we're all here for you.
Anytime you can get out of the house for any reason is always good. I am still laid up with that knee issue and have been making myself lay out in a hammock every day that it's not raining. I go to a coffee shop (granted, you may not have access to one depending upon where you are) a few times a week; I try to entertain friends and have people over for dinner; I do a trivia night with friends once a week, etc. etc. I hope some of this helps ya DJ and as always, we're always here on DC.com, even if we are a weird bunch!
Quote from: Fred on September 09, 2013, 01:12:35 AM
If you're looking to keep busy, join in some of the game threads here. They will keep your mind occupied for hours if you want. :2thumbs:
we're all here for you.
:iagree:
Going to a coffee shop or any public place and being around people is a good idea. Even if you're not directly interacting with people, just being around them as they live their lives will allow you to feel as if you're doing the same. Besides, people watching can be fascinating at times...
Start something positive in your area...
Here's an idea...
https://www.facebook.com/CCIApayitforward
My wife, Peg, has been diagnosed with a Mast Cell disease. This idea has given her 'life' even if she isn't able to do it all herself. She is one of the leaders of this site and provides daily challenges for others, as well as herself. She can then read about others and how this site is impacting the community. In short, this site has given her 'purpose' when her disease has taken much away....
Give and it shall be given unto you...
May the LORD Bless You All!!
Chad
I have been struggling a lot lately. My back surgery was great, I had lost 20 pounds walking every night, then thy physical therapist fucked me all up. I have the same and sometimes worse symptoms as before, I am getting more and more broke as I don't make near what I was, I don't see an end, and sometimes I wake at 4:00 in the god damn morning due to pain... I don't have any kids, wife, or GF. All my family is in Utah. I have four or five friends here locally, yet they are all married and doing their own thing. Sometimes when I wake up at four, I take some oxi do try and go back to sleep and I really REALLY consider take a whole bunch and just drifting off. I really don't know that many would miss me and sometimes, I even wonder how long it would take for anyone to notice. There's only two people on this earth that I don't want to hurt, but I don't know that that's enough anymore... I think the end may be near for me... Call it chicken shit, call it whatever you want. But tomorrow is NOT going to be a better day for me, and neither is next week... I've been telling myself that shit way to long. Then it finely does get better, and the very people that are supposed to be helping me are the ones that throw me back down. I guess we'll see what happens...
Quote from: tsmithae on August 14, 2013, 03:11:07 PM
It's a WC issue... I can't get anyone to give me a claim number so I can schedule an Appt with a Dr. :brickwall:
Get in and get it going. My back is also a workers comp deal... They take for ever and make you jump through hoop after hoop... But be sure to do it... I will probably be fighting them for a long time, if I continue to deal with this shit. If you have your own health insurance, have them get involved. That's what I did. And once they send you out for physical therapy, be sure you go to someone very reputable and if they have apprentices working there, make for damn sure they are being watched. My guy was an apprentice and no one was watching him and my backs as bad or worse than prior surgery, and this parts not covered by workers comp. I grew up in a family that doesn't believe in suing people or business, but this may be a reason to do so...
I wish you luck
If you haven't talked to your physician...you need to now. Tell him everything you just posted here. If you don't have a lawyer...you might want to check into that too. You should not have to live with this pain. And I think your surgery should be corrected at the therapists expense. As if your physical pain isn't enough, your pain meds could also be contributing to your depression.
I am not a physician, psychologist or attorney, but I am willing to be a friend...PM me anytime.
Pain, oxy, and the trials of workers comp can do horrible things to a person. Being in pain alone is a terrible thing amd sode effects of oxy include depression, I know that when I was on it I got terribly depressed and had similar thoughts but am very glad I didn't. During that time o had 3 surgeries and was in and out of PT for 2 years. I also understand the lack of a support group. Please, if you need a support group, reach out to us. :pity:
WELL ,DEEP SUBJECT MAYBEEE,HAHA..
Closing in on a yr with this tread an winter rolling around to usa again an them canucks in the great white out back.. hope ya guys are taking care out there an living an enjoying something in life.. all my best an hangin with the funny an sometime not crowd here,take care,,oookkk..
i worked up too high dose meds,got past the headaches an foggy feeling. trying to plan an focus on good an better for next yr. did send ee to get ball rolling on a nose cone will see how it goes.
this time of yr is hard for me,both my marriages went off deadmans curve round labor day,fall time of yr. an Oct 7 was annivary of dad passing,6 yrs now but more clear an focusest this yr it seemed worse. with rain an clouds got all moody an fell off the wagon. that bottle of rum had been unopened from x-mas. . knowing i was on meds an having had real bad reactions before i did keep it to a few drinks but then few hrs later went to the bar to get some food in gut,did tell them not to serve me as allready in a bad mood an place. ate watched some tv and got home safe an sound with few more drinks in following days now nothing for a week. been sick with head cold an flem cough for that week , :scratchchin: body pay back at my age??
well turned 100 days on here in 3 years an 1000 some post. think this site has help me keep on going several bad nites with the bad times last few yrs? thanks to site an ya guys,,take care and reach out an an stick aroung. lattter DJ :slap: :pity: :shruggy: :icon_smile_wink: :2thumbs: ;) :cheers:
Hopefully, this year will be better than years past. But, that's only if you want it to be. I'm sure it's hard, but keep yourself busy and don't go down memory lane. Take the scenic route instead. :2thumbs:
Cheer up good buddy, we're here for you :cheers:
Howdy heres hoping all are well an staying warm. Well heres to a good turkeyday for all the humans,, sorry birds not going to bee a great day for our feathered friends,but you will taste good and get lots of attension on turkeyday,ha ha hah..
just a note to say hello and hoping for the best for us all this week an season. so please take care an have a safe an good day. eat an drink an enjoy , but dont let the bird kick your arss,,,, an easy on the drinks if meds or stress are invalved.. like family ,,wife ,, inlaws,,, outlaws an kids,,take care out there driving toooooooo>./... :D :D
well happy holiday an beeee good or at least VERY Careful you alls.. sincerely DJ out west.. :cheers:
ps if ya need ta chat send a ee or pm my info on profile,toooo .looks like i wiill bee home this yr.lattttttteeerrrrrr dj
Take above post,change turkey day to Christmas an new years------AN HAVE A GOOD AN SAFE SEASON? :2thumbs: :cheers: :Twocents: :cheers: :cheers: :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :2thumbs:
Quote from: djcarguy on November 13, 2012, 04:07:47 AM
DEPRESSION, OR WINTER BLUES AND SAD TIME THAT LAST,,, PLEASE ASK DOC AND FAMILY OR FRIENDS FOR HELP.
THIS HAS BEEN ON MY MIND ALOT THIS LAST WEEK . IF YOU ARE FEELING DOWN AND SAD,PLEASE REACH OUT.
I HAVE LOST FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND BEEN THRU THIS FOR YEARS MYSELF 30 SOME. NOW MEDS LAST 16 YRS.
PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE ,AND IF ANY DARK IDEAS OR MOODS LAST REACH OUT FOR HELP. THE MIND IS THICKY AND WE CAN NOT JUST WILL THINGS BETTER,OR JUST SNAP OUT OF IT.
SO PLEASE ASK AND GET HELP ,AND THINGS CAN GET BETTER. I AM VERY CONCERNED LATLY BOUT THIS AND THE TIMES AND STRESSES PEOPLE ARE DEALING WITH,THESE DAYS... OK TO PM ME IF YOU DONT WANT TO REPLY IN OPEN ,ITS OK.LATTTER DAVID J WE CAN ALL USE A FRIEND OR HAND SOMETIMES : :2thumbs:
Today is the first official day of winter. The shortest day for sunlight of the year. The days will get longer and brighter from here on out.
It's been rough on me this year too!
I am personally looking forward to '14 very much, '13 has been less than ideal. I hope the next year treats everyone here well. :pity:
Hey guys and gals dealing with this topic of stress and depression..Skip and I love you all and truely appreciate your friendships! Many blessing and strength sent to you all! If you believe, .......truely believe things will get better, they will! Be pro-active, not,re-active! PM either of us and we would be glad to talk! Happy Holidays. Be safe! :)
Quote from: mrsskip68 on December 22, 2013, 02:27:12 AM
Hey guys and gals dealing with this topic of stress and depression..Skip and I love you all and truely appreciate your friendships! Many blessing and strength sent to you all! If you believe, .......truely believe things will get better, they will! Be pro-active, not,re-active! PM either of us and we would be glad to talk! Happy Holidays. Be safe! :)
Can we just drop in instead? :icon_smile_big:
Do you have bunk beds?
Quote from: stroker400 wedge on December 23, 2013, 01:54:51 AM
Do you have bunk beds?
They don't need them, I'm happy to share. :icon_smile_big:
Quote from: Fred on December 23, 2013, 02:03:40 AM
Quote from: Mopar Nut on December 23, 2013, 02:01:02 AM
Quote from: Fred on December 23, 2013, 01:55:42 AM
Quote from: stroker400 wedge on December 23, 2013, 01:54:51 AM
Do you have bunk beds?
They don't need them, I'm happy to share. :icon_smile_big:
Ok, i'm in again.
Ooh!........can't wait. But I've reserved the middle. :icon_smile_big:
I call the top. I just won't drink too much water before going to bed
Quote from: stroker400 wedge on December 23, 2013, 02:05:02 AM
Quote from: Fred on December 23, 2013, 02:03:40 AM
Quote from: Mopar Nut on December 23, 2013, 02:01:02 AM
Quote from: Fred on December 23, 2013, 01:55:42 AM
Quote from: stroker400 wedge on December 23, 2013, 01:54:51 AM
Do you have bunk beds?
They don't need them, I'm happy to share. :icon_smile_big:
Ok, i'm in again.
Ooh!........can't wait. But I've reserved the middle. :icon_smile_big:
I call the top. I just won't drink too much water before going to bed
Ok
Just want to make a shout out to all of you on this thread and especially Dj. Dj was the first person I ever shared my depression with, no one around me knew the depths to which I was falling and the bleakness that was holding me .
Steve Shirley's untimely passing was the trigger for me, he left us when I was at a very low point and after a few discusdions about depression with a few other forum members I reached out to Dj and finally opened up about my depression.....
Since then Ive shared my feelings with my family and others who also suffer.
I feel great these days, this season has always been tough on me but its much better now. i feel much more alive.
Cheers everone ! Share your feelings
Merry Christmas
Cheers Dj.
I think it's hard for the average person to know what depression is like and the depths of it. There is depression from losing a loved one or child and there is depression that can seem minor in any given day but when you deal with it every day for years the pressure builds. Some people look at someone who is depressed as weak or an embarrassment which can cause that person even more depression. It's a slippery road and not the easiest to deal with. Here in Canada if you are clinically depressed you cannot own firearms, certain jobs cannot hire you, etc. Really tough for people to want to go find professional help when your entire way of life might be changed.
Quote from: Drache on December 25, 2013, 04:43:35 PM
I think it's hard for the average person to know what depression is like and the depths of it. There is depression from losing a loved one or child and there is depression that can seem minor in any given day but when you deal with it every day for years the pressure builds. Some people look at someone who is depressed as weak or an embarrassment which can cause that person even more depression. It's a slippery road and not the easiest to deal with. Here in Canada if you are clinically depressed you cannot own firearms, certain jobs cannot hire you, etc. Really tough for people to want to go find professional help when your entire way of life might be changed.
Personally I think some of us turn away not because we think people suffering from depression are weak or embarrassing but because we don't know how to help.....what to say or what to do without seeming condescending. And besides, what advice or reassurance can you give when you personally have never experienced depression. All I can be is compassionate.
Quote from: Big Sugar on December 25, 2013, 11:50:35 AM
Just want to make a shout out to all of you on this thread and especially Dj. Dj was the first person I ever shared my depression with, no one around me knew the depths to which I was falling and the bleakness that was holding me .
Steve Shirley's untimely passing was the trigger for me, he left us when I was at a very low point and after a few discusdions about depression with a few other forum members I reached out to Dj and finally opened up about my depression.....
Since then Ive shared my feelings with my family and others who also suffer.
I feel great these days, this season has always been tough on me but its much better now. i feel much more alive.
Cheers everone ! Share your feelings
Merry Christmas
Cheers Dj.
I'm so pleased for you Ron. :cheers:
Well people say the best step to getting through it is to talk about it so here it goes and I don't care who believes any of this or not.
Near the end of November (thought it was the start of December but looked back in my journal) my fiance left me and the very next day I lost my job. The day after that I lost my apartment. I've been battling with depression off and on for many years. But after this, I snapped. I tried to take my own life two days later (I won't say how openly so if you really want to know message me). For my troubles I earned a RCMP escort to QUESST which is a mini psych ward type of place in the local hospital. I was there for a couple days under observation. During the time the RCMP went and confiscated my firearms.
I got out of QUESST and all my friends had stopped talking to me. Wouldn't answer texts or phone messages. They were upset about what I tried to do and didn't want to deal with me. I left town with my SUV loaded with whatever I could fit into it (left a lot of furniture behind) the day after.
It's hard fighting depression. People ask you how you are doing and you want to lie. No one really wants to know that you're still depressed. The few times I've told people how I really was feeling, they didn't know what to say or do. So they generally replied "Get better soon" and then changed the subject.
Its hard to reach out to someone who does not understand , its a real heavy sense of rejection and it puts you right back where were.....in the pit of life.
Reaching out to someone here will definatly find you a common soul. And it will help you see things a little more clearly.
all I can say is stay away from the drink and drugs, stay focused on positive thoughts and positive people.
Ron
Quote from: Drache on December 26, 2013, 12:09:50 AM
Well people say the best step to getting through it is to talk about it so here it goes and I don't care who believes any of this or not.
Near the end of November (thought it was the start of December but looked back in my journal) my fiance left me and the very next day I lost my job. The day after that I lost my apartment. I've been battling with depression off and on for many years. But after this, I snapped. I tried to take my own life two days later (I won't say how openly so if you really want to know message me). For my troubles I earned a RCMP escort to QUESST which is a mini psych ward type of place in the local hospital. I was there for a couple days under observation. During the time the RCMP went and confiscated my firearms.
I got out of QUESST and all my friends had stopped talking to me. Wouldn't answer texts or phone messages. They were upset about what I tried to do and didn't want to deal with me. I left town with my SUV loaded with whatever I could fit into it (left a lot of furniture behind) the day after.
It's hard fighting depression. People ask you how you are doing and you want to lie. No one really wants to know that you're still depressed. The few times I've told people how I really was feeling, they didn't know what to say or do. So they generally replied "Get better soon" and then changed the subject.
Sorry to hear this Drache, I sure wouldn't have remarked on your forgotten Christmas presents had I known. I thought it was just some unfortunate over sight on their part. Was it? Or was it deliberate? You say you left town, are you not getting any support from family? Having to deal with it on your own has got to be very hard. Stay strong if for no one else but yourself. And know that we're all here for you should you need us.
Quote from: Fred on December 26, 2013, 02:05:12 AM
Sorry to hear this Drache, I sure wouldn't have remarked on your forgotten Christmas presents had I known. I thought it was just some unfortunate over sight on their part. Was it? Or was it deliberate? You say you left town, are you not getting any support from family? Having to deal with it on your own has got to be very hard. Stay strong if for no one else but yourself. And know that we're all here for you should you need us.
No worries Fred. Like I said it hurt a little at the time but I was over it, that's why I posted about it. :2thumbs:
At least when it seems your at your lowest, things can only get better. And usually, they do. Stay strong, stay positive.
no useful advise from me, but i must say - it takes a lot of cojones for you guys to share this stuff with others. :2thumbs:
Sorry to hear this.
It is really bad to hear that "friends" don't want to offer any help, even if it is just to talk. Maybe for your own sake, write a letter to the friends you are really shocked about with their reaction and spell it all out to them. Maybe they will get hit with a hammer on the head and change for the good. At the very least, you will release it off of your chest to help yourself.
HAPPY NEW YEAR,HOPE AN PRAY WE ALL MADE IT AN ARE PLAN SOME FUN AN ENJOYMENT FOR 2014 AN 15..
I find it helps to plan ahead an mark it on the calender,as reminder to make plans an follow thru an have good stuff to look forward too..
I plan to get work done on my cars an enjoy a few big car shows,,mopar an hope to see lots of wing cars this year.
wood love to find or bee part in a group treking to a major mopar,, wing car event this year?? know of a group say from west coast to mid west or TALLADEGA MAYBEE??? SEE YA AN HAPPY NEW YEAR TA YA ALLS..DJ OUT WEST
:cheers: :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :cheers: :D ;D :icon_smile_big: ;D MAKE IT A GOODYEAR :yesnod: :yesnod:
it doesn't really help to know that you're not the only one either. in either case you're not. can anyone vent here or would that be hijacking your thread?
Quote from: Bobs69 on January 12, 2014, 09:48:10 PM
it doesn't really help to know that you're not the only one either. in either case you're not. can anyone vent here or would that be hijacking your thread?
It's welcome to anyone. Feel free to share if you like. Even if no one responds, it's comforting to know that you did share your experiences, good or bad. :cheers:
Last week we had cold but sunny afternoons, was out 3 days driving an seeing an talking cars an fun break from winter an fog bank. Thrusday was good got stuff done an stopped at welbys-GYCars ,looked at a rail dragcar down the street.basicly a great day.
thrusday late son came home an wanted to talk ,knew it had too bee a biggy. well he signed a lease with his girl friend i never met an her 3yr old son were moving in few days. the rent on the apartment is more than my house payment an taxes an insurance combined.
So did get to meet his gal an spend 5 hrs with both sons sunday moving the older 1 hes 24 out of my house again.had house 24 yrs got it when he was few months old. then his mom left an moved my sons out when they were 8 an he was 10. he moved back at 20 an now out again at 24. youngest is 22 as of last week an off to air force in march,but lives with his mom an step dad sence he was 8.. house is too quite last few days an my back an knees are killing me from the moving an its raining again??? still trying too focus an make this a better year. will have too cut back no more $220 rent from kid,so will slow down an pace myself on car dreams an spending i guess. just me an empty house again,,was the marriage an family home for yrs an i have wanted to move for many years. big part of keeping it was some normal part of my sons life?? think iam drifting off on too a rant if i dont stop soon. well plan to go watch Graveyard cars at the bar an drink lots of dr pepper.. woohoo,,lattter DJ wing dreamer...
Enjoy the Dr. Pepper :cheers:
I ask for your prayers. I lost my dream job and have no positive feelings on my life, or my future. :'(
ACUDANUT: Hard times have come and gone many times in my life. I won't bore you with the details but, rest assured, I have seen some really hard times many times in my life. Just keep your head up and go FORWARD and look back only for the knowledge and experience it provides.
My wife of 37 years has consistently told me "things always happen for a reason" and life will get better! It was damn hard to believe that at times and depression and regret was sometimes overwhelming but, I forged ahead with my life and .... things eventually DID get better. I think one of the keys to this is looking forward with a positive attitude and not dwelling on the past. The past is what it is and you cannot change Things WILL get better for you if you do your part to make it happen!
I really will pray for you and hope things get better for you real fast.
Quote from: ACUDANUT on January 29, 2014, 02:57:29 PM
I ask for your prayers. I lost my dream job and have no positive feelings on my life, or my future. :'(
You have mine for sure. I'll be thinking of you and know that things get worse before they get better. :pity:
Thanks guys. :cheers:
Anytime at all! :cheers:
Hey everyone. RAM07 needs our help. Send him some prayers.
http://www.dodgecharger.com/forum/index.php/topic,108191.0.html
Quote from: ACUDANUT on February 03, 2014, 11:06:44 PM
Hey everyone. RAM07 needs our help. Send him some prayers.
http://www.dodgecharger.com/forum/index.php/topic,108191.0.html
:2thumbs: Let's keep the communication open. RAM07 can use our assistance as well as the many that are not posting. :cheers:
RAM07 I never drank a lot, I couldn't handle too much. I took awhile to realize it but I just can't drink. Once I realized it, it was easy to quite. It would make me feel good after having only a few beers, but I'd pay for it for nearly a week. I'd be miserable. Depressed and or aggressive. Going to work was not easy like that.
Now that I'm thinking about it, I wonder how I looked to others? I know my wife didn't like it, not sure the people I work with would have noticed.
Quote from: djcarguy on January 01, 2014, 04:32:07 AM
HAPPY NEW YEAR,HOPE AN PRAY WE ALL MADE IT AN ARE PLAN SOME FUN AN ENJOYMENT FOR 2014 AN 15..
I find it helps to plan ahead an mark it on the calender,as reminder to make plans an follow thru an have good stuff to look forward too..
I plan to get work done on my cars an enjoy a few big car shows,,mopar an hope to see lots of wing cars this year.
wood love to find or bee part in a group treking to a major mopar,, wing car event this year?? know of a group say from west coast to mid west or TALLADEGA MAYBEE??? SEE YA AN HAPPY NEW YEAR TA YA ALLS..DJ OUT WEST
:cheers: :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :cheers: :D ;D :icon_smile_big: ;D MAKE IT A GOODYEAR :yesnod: :yesnod:
You know we are suppose to rejoice to a new day when we wake up. Do you know anyone this giddy ?
I just noticed this...and I'll thank everyone in advance.
Help may be coming, who knows...we will see...
Reaching out to friends, is a no go...they are all big time drinkers....so, dumped them...
A big thanks to you ACUDANUT for even posting about me here...nice to know that someone gives a s**t, and is willing to help out..
To answer the question asked...rejoice, no, never....usually just think....ok...lets try to get through another day, without f**king up...
Ya know, sometimes the best help comes from "real" people. not Drs, that studied crap in books...but, never actually went through a few bad years, ya know?
No problem Ram. We are a family here. :2thumbs:
I don't force religion on anyone. But try to find at least one hour a week to go to church.
I am not the perfect Christian, but I am a God fearing one. We will have our judgment day. Try to get some help and seek Christ. What have you and I got to lose ?
No church stuff, okay... we all have our on way of believing in a higher power, lets just say.
Real experience, from real people...how they dealt with things is what I am looking for....but...don't forget...just cause i have an issue...I'm still pretty smart...work in that field, and have plenty to offer as well..
Quote from: Ram07 on February 05, 2014, 12:15:16 PM
Ya know, sometimes the best help comes from "real" people. not Drs, that studied crap in books...but, never actually went through a few bad years, ya know?
I can tell you from experience that not all Doctors get all the perks that everyone thinks that they do. You really do not know what others are going through, some are experts at hiding their problems. For me, grad school was not a "fun" trip. It was high school part II (complete with bullying) on a much higher level for a much longer time with my future at stake in the process. It changed me to be less trusting of others, as I experienced "friends" and coworkers selling me out when I needed their support. I became much more self-relient in the process, but at a cost I still pay today....
Sorry to preach. One hour won't kill you.
Get well.
Stay positive and look at the good things you have going for you.
You have a Daughter and maybe grandkids someday ! :2thumbs:
Don't you want them to remember you. ? I never knew my mom's dad. (my grandfather). He was a drunk and died very young.
Yup....Grandpa too
:icon_smile_big:
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My wife thinks I'm going into depression.....time will tell. Hopefully It wont get the best of me. After reading other peoples problems I shouldn't feel so bad. surprisingly for being an up beat person most of the time It doesn't take much to make me down and out. The last few years I have been really struggling with myself and doesn't take much for me to get down in the dumps. When all you do is sit home all day long thinking about crap that take's a toll on you. I have only been off work for a month and to be off 6 more months....smh.
idal time an boredom are the devil insides time too shine,its odd how all are own thoughts an fears or self image can repete an loop an get stuck in our brains,an drag us too some dark places..
i started taking some talk therapy group yrs ago ,but after few group talks i felt like i had no problem an didnt belong as it seemed others were way worse an needed all the councilors time so i stopped going. an i slide right back to old ways an drinking an hibernating myself away in my house. i have had lots of breaks months an once 3 yrs out of work,it was so long then no one wanted to hire me. which took me to a new level of dark hell, i feel better an needed work. but every interview was what you been doing last 3 yrs.. finally went with self employed buying an selling cars an parts.. now bout 13 yrs sence i was force out of work at bout 42 ,8 surgurys an permanent restrictions on work abilitys..after long major depression ,my worker comp.lawyer got me to go too doc for meds then to shrink . got listed or labeled unemployable.was 6 yrs of hell from end of 10 yr job till i got ssi.april will bee 13 years out of work .was a final assembly machinic of bout 1/2 millon dollars mobile wood chippers. just pasted 14 yrs divorced from 2nd nice gal ,,she tryed for 9 1/2 yrs, but saw no future with a me .she was a good lady in lots of way but could not relate or even imagine or want too talk bout my childhood an stuff in my brain. she was, oh long time ago get over it or just get past it,,,did not help. so i kept it all inside an slowly shut her out.
have had car an motorbike crashes afew near drownding in river an it seems that even GOD does not want me ,, or could bee not ready for me, a better way i look at it. 3 kids an gran girl is what i try to focus on an have pix s with me or near by always to refocus my brain when stressing or going dark.take care guys an gals try to do few good deeds for others thru the year it helps my well being ,maybe even brownyy points with the big guy.back on meds 10 months an multi vitamin,,less sick which help with well being too i think..bee strong an take care fellow traveler on this path of life,we get one shot at on this side of lawn. its snowing so iam moody but not bad long as it does not stay long,beats rain an fog i tell my self. latttttttttter DJ :pity: :2thumbs:
Quote from: djcarguy on February 06, 2014, 05:38:55 PM
ideal time an boredom are the devil insides time too shine,its odd how all are own thoughts an fears or self image can repete an loop an get stuck in our brains,an drag us too some dark places..
i started taking some talk therapy group yrs ago ,but after few group talks i felt like i had no problem an didnt belong as it seemed others were way worse an needed all the councilors time so i stopped going. an i slide right back to old ways an drinking an hibernating myself away in my house. i have had lots of breaks months an once 3 yrs out of work,it was so long then no one wanted to hire me. which took me to a new level of dark hell, i feel better an needed work. but every interview was what you been doing last 3 yrs.. finally went with self employed buying an selling cars an parts.. now bout 13 yrs sence i was force out of work at bout 42 ,8 surgurys an permanent restrictions on work abilitys..after long major depression ,my worker comp.lawyer got me to go too doc for meds then to shrink . got listed or labeled unemployable.was 6 yrs of hell from end of 10 yr job till i got ssi.april will bee 13 years out of work .was a final assembly machinic of bout 1/2 dollars wood chippers. just pasted 14 yrs divorced from 2nd nice gal ,,she tryed for 9 1/2 yrs, but saw no future with a me .she was a good lady in lots of way but could not relate or even imagine or want too talk bout my childhood an stuff in my brain. she was oh long time ago get over it or just forget past it,,,did not help. so i kept it all inside an slowly shut her out.
have had car an motorbike crashes afew near drownding in river an it seems that even GOD does not want me ,, or could bee not ready for me, a better way i look at it. 3 kids an gran girl is what i try to focus on an have pix s with me or near by always to refocus my brain when stressing or going dark.take guys an gals try to do few good deeds for others thru the year it helps my well being ,maybe even brownyy points with the big guy.back on meds 10 months an multi vitamin,,less sick which help with well being too i think..bee strong an take care fellow traveler on this path of life,we get one shot at on this side of lawn. its snowing so iam moody but not bad long as it does not stay long,beats rain an fog i tell my self. latttttttttter DJ :pity: :2thumbs:
DJ, are you doing okay. ? It sounds like your drinking hard.
Had 1 rum an green tea,tuesday after noon. home mix alittle gross took me hrs to drink it.
have done AA 30 yrs ago after drunk motorbike crash. I rarely have booze in my house,because i have a past of self medicating an abuceing drinking. son moved out 2 weeks ago,he knows my past with drinking troble but was so mind set on move an his life ,he gave me 3 bottles,vodka,rum,an toqkillya.. i hate tokillya an whiskey the taste is gross,like turpinetine too me.
bout poured it all out,but put it in cabinet?? i keep in mind an meds right by my drinking glass to remind me not to drink more than one in a blue moon while on meds. go 3 to 6 months with out a drink now days ,but it took many yrs. an have had black outs ,vomiting an many bad times with drinking. one really bad nite with meds an drinking that still scares me when i look back.broke up my own house an3 car windshields an was out driveing with very little memory of it.with knife an gun in car with me. that was 02 out of work divorced again an pills an booze,bad combo.
please take care an learn without going this far guys an gal. God bless an bee good an very careful.DJ :pity: :2thumbs:
Quote from: The70RT on February 06, 2014, 04:01:28 PM
My wife thinks I'm going into depression.....time will tell. Hopefully It wont get the best of me. After reading other peoples problems I shouldn't feel so bad. surprisingly for being an up beat person most of the time It doesn't take much to make me down and out. The last few years I have been really struggling with myself and doesn't take much for me to get down in the dumps. When all you do is sit home all day long thinking about crap that take's a toll on you. I have only been off work for a month and to be off 6 more months....smh.
Sorry to hear that Dennis. :pity:
I've noticed your absence.
I was off work (retired) less than 2 weeks & already hating life set in. When you perform physical work all your life & never take more than a couple weeks off it's hard on your system, at least for me it was. I started at a young age working actually private work cause I was too young (yard work for a guy who just bought a 5 acre parcel with home for about a year).
As soon as I was old enough, slowly worked my way into 35-40 hours a week & school. Not much for a social life but I had plans. Probably why I was able to afford a '77 Trans Am in high school, '83 grad. Everyone thought my parent's bought it.
It doesn't get easier Dennis. A person needs stuff to do to keep their mind off things. I should practice what I preach. But anyhoots, I spend a lot of time on the puter. Lots of time spent playing fantasy sports where I might add do pretty good.
If you'd like my # Dennis I can PM you. I may not have solutions but hear I'm a pretty good listener. ;) I wish I was closer. Between 2 gimps we should be able make some progress on your B5 beauty!
Quote from: The70RT on February 06, 2014, 04:01:28 PM
My wife thinks I'm going into depression.....time will tell. Hopefully It wont get the best of me. After reading other peoples problems I shouldn't feel so bad. surprisingly for being an up beat person most of the time It doesn't take much to make me down and out. The last few years I have been really struggling with myself and doesn't take much for me to get down in the dumps. When all you do is sit home all day long thinking about crap that take's a toll on you. I have only been off work for a month and to be off 6 more months....smh.
Well...I can offer a little tid bit on this one...You probably are...time off sucks, when you don't want it.
If you are anything like me, you would be a stubborn kind of guy that figures, time will tell...see what happens...If your wife is noticing things...I would go see someone...I did, back in the day! Sometimes the best advice given is from a non judgmental stranger, you can just go vent too for an hour or so.
Worrying about stuff, never helps, makes you feel worse, and can worry all you want, will not change anything.
Talk to a guy...one that makes you feel comfortable...take it from me...I did that a little too late....wife will eventually get pissed, tell you to do the same kinda thing, and that just adds to more problems...and you don't wanna get to that point....but, that's just me talking...
But...guessing you are bored, hurting, frustrated...and worrying about money...
I may be out of line, but...been there done that...I lost big time...
Quote from: 472 R/T SE on February 06, 2014, 09:15:40 PM
Quote from: The70RT on February 06, 2014, 04:01:28 PM
My wife thinks I'm going into depression.....time will tell. Hopefully It wont get the best of me. After reading other peoples problems I shouldn't feel so bad. surprisingly for being an up beat person most of the time It doesn't take much to make me down and out. The last few years I have been really struggling with myself and doesn't take much for me to get down in the dumps. When all you do is sit home all day long thinking about crap that take's a toll on you. I have only been off work for a month and to be off 6 more months....smh.
Sorry to hear that Dennis. :pity:
I've noticed your absence.
I was off work (retired) less than 2 weeks & already hating life set in. When you perform physical work all your life & never take more than a couple weeks off it's hard on your system, at least for me it was. I started at a young age working actually private work cause I was too young (yard work for a guy who just bought a 5 acre parcel with home for about a year).
As soon as I was old enough, slowly worked my way into 35-40 hours a week & school. Not much for a social life but I had plans. Probably why I was able to afford a '77 Trans Am in high school, '83 grad. Everyone thought my parent's bought it.
It doesn't get easier Dennis. A person needs stuff to do to keep their mind off things. I should practice what I preach. But anyhoots, I spend a lot of time on the puter. Lots of time spent playing fantasy sports where I might add do pretty good.
If you'd like my # Dennis I can PM you. I may not have solutions but hear I'm a pretty good listener. ;) I wish I was closer. Between 2 gimps we should be able make some progress on your B5 beauty!
Thanks Mike, you can PM me your number so I can maybe stay in touch if I need someone to talk to. I know you have had it worse than me and know how to handle things better. Yeah I wish we were neighbors :2thumbs:
Quote from: Ram07 on February 07, 2014, 01:16:35 PM
Quote from: The70RT on February 06, 2014, 04:01:28 PM
My wife thinks I'm going into depression.....time will tell. Hopefully It wont get the best of me. After reading other peoples problems I shouldn't feel so bad. surprisingly for being an up beat person most of the time It doesn't take much to make me down and out. The last few years I have been really struggling with myself and doesn't take much for me to get down in the dumps. When all you do is sit home all day long thinking about crap that take's a toll on you. I have only been off work for a month and to be off 6 more months....smh.
Well...I can offer a little tid bit on this one...You probably are...time off sucks, when you don't want it.
If you are anything like me, you would be a stubborn kind of guy that figures, time will tell...see what happens...If your wife is noticing things...I would go see someone...I did, back in the day! Sometimes the best advice given is from a non judgmental stranger, you can just go vent too for an hour or so.
Worrying about stuff, never helps, makes you feel worse, and can worry all you want, will not change anything.
Talk to a guy...one that makes you feel comfortable...take it from me...I did that a little too late....wife will eventually get pissed, tell you to do the same kinda thing, and that just adds to more problems...and you don't wanna get to that point....but, that's just me talking...
But...guessing you are bored, hurting, frustrated...and worrying about money...
I may be out of line, but...been there done that...I lost big time...
Yeah your pretty much right about everything, my wife is my rock and I treat her good and don't really worry about her not putting up with me. We have to go out of state Monday to get her to an Indian hospital in OK since there is none up here. She just got a new job and don't get insurance till her probationary period is up. She has 1/8 Cherokee in her so they pay for her medical but have to make a trek down there every time we need to. She has had something going on and we don't know what it is. I'm glad she is more up beat then I am....she's a tough cookie. They been dragging their feet since her last visit in October when they just gave her some meds but now she is still in alot of pain. Maybe after all this is taken care of I focus on healing and getting out of the house to do some things. I know sitting around worrying is bad but It's hard to turn your focus away from all the bad things.
HAD BIG HOPES FOR A GOOD NEW YEAR.Well had some good weeks an bad maybee 50 -50 so far. my son that was living here paying some rent moved late january with his gal an her kid i never met her or kid till day he moved..
get to say goodbye to younger son today ,, sunday he is off to basic in texas an 4 yr sign up.. did get to spend a day with him this week . he turned 22 in jan an is my youngest of 3.
good bye pizza this evening an it will all bee my xx an new hubby an my outlaws of 14 yrs. plan to stick to soda an not cause a mess on my sons last nite here... but even after all these yrs part of me wood still like to kick the hell out of the step dad.. i have worked hard for over 14 years not to get put in jail over the lieing bitch or that worthless sack of shoooooooooooooooooooooitt.....
the sun is shining ,,think i will go for a drive,maybee stop an see few car guy an there is a little show this evening i can leave the pizza thing an go too//??/ WELL iam going to eat an go for a drive.. both sons are to bee at pizza ,few blocks from my house... trying to stay calm an i em taking my pills..well food is ready,so latter.DJ
Hang in there. :engel016:
Have a good time DJ :2thumbs:
Pizza bye went well sat with my older son his gal an met her 3 yr old son cute very active kid. my ma an pa outlaws xxxxx inlaws sat with me an son get alone with them now took few yrs..
youngest left sunday an is in texas Air force basis than to miss a sip for schooling then??? he says anywhere but west coast ,been there... were from oregon an in oregon still???
been slow an quiet week my gut an back are trying to kill me or keep me busy running to the can ,,oh tmi.. well made it thru with maybee 3-4 words too x an dick head,, she has gained more an looks very unhappy,oh.,,,,,tooo bad..
Well we been having sun shine an mild temp,wish i felt better. take care out there.latter DJ :2thumbs:
Quote from: djcarguy on November 13, 2012, 04:07:47 AM
DEPRESSION, OR WINTER BLUES AND SAD TIME THAT LAST,,, PLEASE ASK DOC AND FAMILY OR FRIENDS FOR HELP.
THIS HAS BEEN ON MY MIND ALOT THIS LAST WEEK . IF YOU ARE FEELING DOWN AND SAD,PLEASE REACH OUT.
I HAVE LOST FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND BEEN THRU THIS FOR YEARS MYSELF 30 SOME. NOW MEDS LAST 16 YRS.
PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE ,AND IF ANY DARK IDEAS OR MOODS LAST REACH OUT FOR HELP. THE MIND IS THICKY AND WE CAN NOT JUST WILL THINGS BETTER,OR JUST SNAP OUT OF IT.
SO PLEASE ASK AND GET HELP ,AND THINGS CAN GET BETTER. I AM VERY CONCERNED LATLY BOUT THIS AND THE TIMES AND STRESSES PEOPLE ARE DEALING WITH,THESE DAYS... OK TO PM ME IF YOU DONT WANT TO REPLY IN OPEN ,ITS OK.LATTTER DAVID J WE CAN ALL USE A FRIEND OR HAND SOMETIMES : :2thumbs:
God Bless Robin Williams. Maybe he could have came to this site for help.
Rough road but still kicking
I called the suicide hotline and they encouraged me. :brickwall:
Quote from: ACUDANUT on August 22, 2014, 01:44:20 PM
I called the suicide hotline and they encouraged me. :brickwall:
So why are you still here?
Wishing :cheers: an all my best ta ya all s.. hope ya all have a good turkey day ,food,football an the best day off you can make it. :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :cheers:
Winter an holidays are here again . Real cloudy an wet out here in west oregon.
well ya all take care an make it the best day ya can .call a few friends or family and dont eat too much. beside left over are a good thing to have latttttter..
Take care out there an bee good ta ya self ,,,happy holidays to us all. :cheers:
Church! There is nothing better to lift your spirits than socializing with faithful people, and Most churches have a support group. Prayer is the best way to keep yourself level. I was surprised to find out how many car people are among my parish members. The pastor of course is always willing to talk with you. God is real. Your life is proof of that. Your life has value and meaning because God created you, this He did out of love for you. He made the creation for you to enjoy. It is thanksgiving weekend so think about all the things you have to be thankful for. Not just this weekend, but everyday. Dwell on the positive things in your life both past and present. Thank God for them in prayer. Ask for Him to give you strength. Helping others is a great way to make friends and lift your spirits while socializing, it quite often puts life in perspective in a positive way as well. :angel:
Quote from: 69DAYTONASE on November 30, 2014, 01:43:58 PM
Church! There is nothing better to lift your spirits than socializing with faithful people, and Most churches have a support group. Prayer is the best way to keep yourself level. I was surprised to find out how many car people are among my parish members. The pastor of course is always willing to talk with you. God is real. Your life is proof of that. Your life has value and meaning because God created you, this He did out of love for you. He made the creation for you to enjoy. It is thanksgiving weekend so think about all the things you have to be thankful for. Not just this weekend, but everyday. Dwell on the positive things in your life both past and present. Thank God for them in prayer. Ask for Him to give you strength. Helping others is a great way to make friends and lift your spirits while socializing, it quite often puts life in perspective in a positive way as well. :angel:
GREAT ADVICE!
:2thumbs: :bow: :woohoo:
Quote from: 69DAYTONASE on November 30, 2014, 01:43:58 PM
Church! There is nothing better to lift your spirits than socializing with faithful people, and Most churches have a support group. Prayer is the best way to keep yourself level. I was surprised to find out how many car people are among my parish members. The pastor of course is always willing to talk with you. God is real. Your life is proof of that. Your life has value and meaning because God created you, this He did out of love for you. He made the creation for you to enjoy. It is thanksgiving weekend so think about all the things you have to be thankful for. Not just this weekend, but everyday. Dwell on the positive things in your life both past and present. Thank God for them in prayer. Ask for Him to give you strength. Helping others is a great way to make friends and lift your spirits while socializing, it quite often puts life in perspective in a positive way as well. :angel:
Great advise x2.
btw, Thanks Tuff Kitty :brickwall:
Quote from: 69DAYTONASE on November 30, 2014, 01:43:58 PM
Church! There is nothing better to lift your spirits than socializing with faithful people, and Most churches have a support group. Prayer is the best way to keep yourself level. I was surprised to find out how many car people are among my parish members. The pastor of course is always willing to talk with you. God is real. Your life is proof of that. Your life has value and meaning because God created you, this He did out of love for you. He made the creation for you to enjoy. It is thanksgiving weekend so think about all the things you have to be thankful for. Not just this weekend, but everyday. Dwell on the positive things in your life both past and present. Thank God for them in prayer. Ask for Him to give you strength. Helping others is a great way to make friends and lift your spirits while socializing, it quite often puts life in perspective in a positive way as well. :angel:
hmmm, I just don't know about that :scratchchin:
Quote from: 69DAYTONASE on November 30, 2014, 01:43:58 PM
Church! There is nothing better to lift your spirits than socializing with faithful people, and Most churches have a support group. Prayer is the best way to keep yourself level. I was surprised to find out how many car people are among my parish members. The pastor of course is always willing to talk with you. God is real. Your life is proof of that. Your life has value and meaning because God created you, this He did out of love for you. He made the creation for you to enjoy. It is thanksgiving weekend so think about all the things you have to be thankful for. Not just this weekend, but everyday. Dwell on the positive things in your life both past and present. Thank God for them in prayer. Ask for Him to give you strength. Helping others is a great way to make friends and lift your spirits while socializing, it quite often puts life in perspective in a positive way as well. :angel:
I agree 100% x3 :2thumbs:
If you enjoyed physical work why not get a gym membership in retirement? You are out in public, dry warm and around people you can engage or just watch.
Or was it the sunshine that made you feel good? Go to a tanning bed once in awhile.
Quote from: polywideblock on December 03, 2014, 10:00:24 PM
Quote from: 69DAYTONASE on November 30, 2014, 01:43:58 PM
Church! There is nothing better to lift your spirits than socializing with faithful people, and Most churches have a support group. Prayer is the best way to keep yourself level. I was surprised to find out how many car people are among my parish members. The pastor of course is always willing to talk with you. God is real. Your life is proof of that. Your life has value and meaning because God created you, this He did out of love for you. He made the creation for you to enjoy. It is thanksgiving weekend so think about all the things you have to be thankful for. Not just this weekend, but everyday. Dwell on the positive things in your life both past and present. Thank God for them in prayer. Ask for Him to give you strength. Helping others is a great way to make friends and lift your spirits while socializing, it quite often puts life in perspective in a positive way as well. :angel:
hmmm, I just don't know about that :scratchchin:
thanks for the PM's and emails :cheers: but it would be better to let the "other " half know they don't have it all their way :yesnod: post up
edit: sorry for the hijack :slap:
Quote from: djcarguy on November 22, 2012, 06:19:17 AM
NEWS FLASH;;;;; GOVERNMENT STUDY ::::: WARNS ABOUT POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS WITH THE MIXING OF TURKEY,,,MEDICATION AND FOOTBALL AND DRINKING:::: THAT COMBINED WITH OVER EATING ,FAMILY AND STRESS MAY CAUSE LOSS OF SELF CONTROL,LONG PERIODS OF BLACK OUTS AND DROOLING:::
EXTREME CAUTIONS IS ADVISED ,,,HAHAHAHA KIDDING HAVE A GOOD TURKEY DAY..........ALSO PLEASE KEEP IN MIND MEDS AND DRINKING CAN BE A VERY BAD COMBO,WITH FAMILY AND STRESSES......... EVEN WITH OUT MEDS,,,
IF FEELING DEPRESSED OR DOWM IN DUMPS-BLUES,,DRINKING CAN TAKE YOU OVER THE EDGE... BEEE CAREFUL AND SAFE,OUT THERE. HAPPY BIRD DAY,WELL NOT FOR THE BIRDS,HAHA.. WHO LIKES DUCKS I HAVE 4 HANGING OUT IN BACK YARD,HAVE BEEN FATTENING THEM UP .FEED THEM LOTS OF OLD APPLES TOO ,FUN TO WATCH DRUCK DUCK,,WADDLE.HAHAHA
HAVE A SAFE DAY, I BEEEEE STAYING HOME WITH HEAD COLD AN CHICKEN DINNER,,NO ENERGY TA CATCH AN FIX A DUCK RIGHT NOW. SEE YA ON THE OTHER SIDE IF YA BELLE ANT IN THE WAY. 3 AM ON COLD MEDS AND LACK OF SLEEP..LATTTERR DJ
:cheers: :cheers: :pity: :2thumbs: :2thumbs:
Quote from: djcarguy on November 13, 2012, 04:07:47 AM
DEPRESSION, OR WINTER BLUES AND SAD TIME THAT LAST,,, PLEASE ASK DOC AND FAMILY OR FRIENDS FOR HELP.
THIS HAS BEEN ON MY MIND ALOT THIS LAST WEEK . IF YOU ARE FEELING DOWN AND SAD,PLEASE REACH OUT.
I HAVE LOST FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND BEEN THRU THIS FOR YEARS MYSELF 30 SOME. NOW MEDS LAST 16 YRS.
PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE ,AND IF ANY DARK IDEAS OR MOODS LAST REACH OUT FOR HELP. THE MIND IS THICKY AND WE CAN NOT JUST WILL THINGS BETTER,OR JUST SNAP OUT OF IT.
SO PLEASE ASK AND GET HELP ,AND THINGS CAN GET BETTER. I AM VERY CONCERNED LATLY BOUT THIS AND THE TIMES AND STRESSES PEOPLE ARE DEALING WITH,THESE DAYS... OK TO PM ME IF YOU DONT WANT TO REPLY IN OPEN ,ITS OK.LATTTER DAVID J WE CAN ALL USE A FRIEND OR HAND SOMETIMES : :2thumbs:
:cheers: :pity: :2thumbs: :RantExplode: :RantExplode: :shruggy: :Twocents:
Do something nice for a stranger today ! . Merry Christmas everyone.
When I feel the inevevitible depression starting up, I will unfailingly, put on my boots and simply go do something. Whether it's a walk in the woods, mowing the lawn, fixing something or working on a Mopar, there's always something to do around here.
For me, WORK IS THE ONLY SALVATION and I am confident that it's the same for all of us.......
Doing well right up until yesterday.
So I decided that this year, since I had a good job and a lot of extra spending money, I would spoil the family for Christmas. So I went out and literally spend hundreds of dollars on gifts for the whole family. It was nice seeing people open the gifts I got them because I put a lot of thought into each gift and did all my Christmas shopping while suffering with a fractured sternum.
Short while later I realized all the gifts were open and a family member asked me what I got. Absolutely nothing. Not a single person there remembered to get me a gift.
Now I know christmas isn't about gifts, but it hurts knowing no one there even thought about something. Well they all felt bad so one left and brought me back a large box of chocolates. Everyone all seemed to cheer up that I now had a gift. Except they all forgot that I'm Diabetic.
I tried to put this all behind me and then got a call about an hour later. I've been laid off.
God only gives you what you can handle. Stay strong my friend.
BTW, I did not get much, but at my age I don't want worthless crap anyway.
Quote from: ACUDANUT on December 27, 2014, 09:53:45 AM
God only gives you what you can handle. Stay strong my friend.
BTW, I did not get much, but at my age I don't want worthless crap anyway.
Yeah I don't really need people to buy me stuff, but having the whole family admit to you that they all forgot about you, it hurts. Especially when they spent christmas AT MY PLACE this year.
You're not the only one that didn't have a Merry Christmas. It's just time to move on and look forward to having a happy and better new year.
I don't think they forgot about you. Them showing up and spending time with you is in fact a gift. What is life without love or family. ? Nothing.
Quote from: Drache on December 26, 2014, 08:54:42 PM
Doing well right up until yesterday.
So I decided that this year, since I had a good job and a lot of extra spending money, I would spoil the family for Christmas. So I went out and literally spend hundreds of dollars on gifts for the whole family. It was nice seeing people open the gifts I got them because I put a lot of thought into each gift and did all my Christmas shopping while suffering with a fractured sternum.
Short while later I realized all the gifts were open and a family member asked me what I got. Absolutely nothing. Not a single person there remembered to get me a gift.
Now I know christmas isn't about gifts, but it hurts knowing no one there even thought about something. Well they all felt bad so one left and brought me back a large box of chocolates. Everyone all seemed to cheer up that I now had a gift. Except they all forgot that I'm Diabetic.
I tried to put this all behind me and then got a call about an hour later. I've been laid off.
I am sorry to hear that happened to you, Drache. I wish you the best of luck on finding a better job soon. May your next year be a much better one for you....
Sorry to hear about the lay off, Drache. My wife got laid off this year but was lucky enough to find another one fairly quick. Here's to a better 2015 for ya ! :cheers:
Sorry Drache, I hope a better job comes along real soon!
at the risk of being ridiculed did Drache not say he had a good job and was able to spend lots of money on Christmas? So why are you guys consoling him for being laid off?
I find it interesting that your family forgot to get you a Christmas present. I agree that they probably did not forget you, but I don't know what to tell you.
is it possible that you've been doing so well emotionally and mentally that people were not worried about you and didn't have to have you on their mind all the time with worry?
Quote from: Drache on December 27, 2014, 10:17:09 AM
Quote from: ACUDANUT on December 27, 2014, 09:53:45 AM
God only gives you what you can handle. Stay strong my friend.
BTW, I did not get much, but at my age I don't want worthless crap anyway.
Yeah I don't really need people to buy me stuff, but having the whole family admit to you that they all forgot about you, it hurts. Especially when they spent christmas AT MY PLACE this year.
Hey Drache, send all those people thank you cards for coming over, and you will never be forgotten again!
With all due respect, one shouldn't do generous things and expect gratitude or recognition to come from it; the reward from doing good and generous things should be its own reward, and knowing that you did something benevolent for your fellow man...
VERY THANKFUL THAT X-MAS AN NEW BULL YEAR ARE PASSED AN WE CAN ALL FORGET THEM??? AN FOCUSS ON MAKING IT A BETTER NEW YEAR NEXT DECADE OR CENTCURY,HO HO HO..
VERY SUNNY AN COLD OUT WEST,,USA? BEEETS THE RAIN AN COLD OF LATE..
HAVE A GOOD NEW YEAR ;S DAY AND MAKE SOME PLANS FOR A BETTER NEW YEAR?? :cheers: :cheers: :2thumbs: :2thumbs: FROM GRUMPY DJ OUT WEST :RantExplode: :D
Quote from: 69DAYTONASE on December 29, 2014, 02:42:46 PM
Quote from: Drache on December 27, 2014, 10:17:09 AM
Quote from: ACUDANUT on December 27, 2014, 09:53:45 AM
God only gives you what you can handle. Stay strong my friend.
BTW, I did not get much, but at my age I don't want worthless crap anyway.
Yeah I don't really need people to buy me stuff, but having the whole family admit to you that they all forgot about you, it hurts. Especially when they spent christmas AT MY PLACE this year.
Hey Drache, send all those people thank you cards for coming over, and you will never be forgotten again!
Don't forget to thank them for their generous gifts also. They will get the message.
Quote from: charge69 on December 28, 2014, 11:00:36 PM
Sorry Drache, I hope a better job comes along real soon!
X2~!
Hope we all made it thru the silly season,,holidays an new year an winter are my worst time of the year. have a few big things coming up that iam holding on too an hangin around for.
my grandson is due in april,then my girl an son inlaw will have a boy an girl. that will bee all for them as birth is VERY hard c section for my small frame dahter. i sure hope an pray all goes good for my girl an granboy.
saw my 2 sons at turkey day,but not a word,call or eee at X-MAS or new year. youngest son will bee 23 this month. but gone to germany for 2yrs with air force.
my kids helped keep me here and hangin aroud , FOR YEARS.
do give credit to a few doctors an bout 19 yrs on an off anti depression meds getting thru some of the life roller coaster crashes. divorce 2 an loss of job an income..
please all ya hangin an help a friend in need if ya can..THANKS BEE STRONG AN IT CAN GET BETTER WITH HELP. HERES TO A SO SO GOOD OR BETTER YEAR.. TAKE CARE OUT THERE.DJ OUT IN THE WET WEST... :pity: :pity: :2thumbs: :cheers: :Twocents: :2thumbs: :cheers:
Drache, It is no fun being without a job I know. It hurts in lots of ways. Apply for unemployment right away. Dont hesitate. I was layed off many times in my earlier days, but always recalled. Is there a chance you will be recalled? Unemployment helps but does not make up for the lost wages. Do you enjoy the work you do? Is there something else you would like to do? Retraining for a different job. You have options.
My daughter was let go a few years back. She used the unemployment time to go back to school and become a physicians assistant. Lemons in to lemon aid my friend. Best of luck to you.
I was pretty depressed last year at this time because of the accident, doing a lot better and getting a few things done on the car now.
I'm getting depressed because no one acknowledges my posts!
Quote from: Bobs69 on January 21, 2015, 12:26:57 AM
I'm getting depressed because no one acknowledges my posts!
What makes you say that?
TODAY IS MOM THE WITCHES BDAY :RantExplode: MY SISTER THAT I HAVE TOLD FOR 20 YEARS IF DAD PASSES SHES ALL HERS. SIS IS NOW PUSHING ME TO CALLOR GO VISIT MOM..
DAD PASSED 7 YRS AGO,MY 2 XX LEFT 15 YRS AGO MY LAST JOB OF 10 YRS THREW ME AWAY START OF 2001,NEVER COULD GET HIRED AGAIN WITH ALL MY INJURES AN WORK LIMITS.
OFF MEDS FOR MONTHS AN IN LOTS OF PAIN AND WINTERAN DEPRESSED.DRIVER IS BROKE,BAD BRAKES.ITS LIKE MY 2 SONS WROTE ME OFFLAST FEW MONTHS. LIVE ALONE IF YA CALL IT LIVING,GO DAYS WITH NOT SEEING OR SPEAKING TO ANYONE EVEN ON PHONE ,SLEEPING DAYS AN UP ALL NITE.HAD NOT POSTED BOUT MONTH TRYIED YESTERDAY?? HAD GUNS OUT WEEK BEFORE X MAS BUT TRYING TO NOT MESS UP OR LEAVE MESS FOR KIDS TO DEAL WITH.TRYING TO STAY AN SEE NEW GRANSON END MARCH. TRIED TO GET IN TO NASCAR TO GET BY TILL SUMMER I DO BETTER. BUT IN LOTS OF PAIN RIBS-BACK JUST SITTING HERE,TYPING. HURT RIBS OTHER DAY WORKING ON CAR BRAKES. WELL FROZEN BURRRRITOS WAITING ,THEY DONT GET BETTER WHEN COLD OR REHEATED......IVE BEEN SURVIVING AN DEALING WITH THESE IDEAS FOR 40 YRS,,,DID A PAPER IN HI-SCHOOL PROS AN CONS OF SELF EXIT,,AS THE CLASS CLOWN AN PREACHERS KID AN 70ES THINK TEACHER SAY FEW WORDS LIKE YOU JOKING OR WHAT AN I GUESS I JUST LAUGHT BACK THEN... HAVE TO GET THE PAIN OUT OF THIS CHAIR AND TAKE A PAIN PILL .. I WILL SURVIVE ONE MORE SUMMER AN SEE GRANSON THEN SUMMER CAR STUFF AN SO ON... LATER TAKE CARE YA ALL..
Quote from: djcarguy on November 17, 2012, 05:38:22 PM
I just wanted to say very sorry ,no way you should of seen or had to go thru that at young or any age . a girl friend of mine yrs ago got home talked to her dad and he walked into bedroom and shot himself. messed with her mind and would come back fresh as the day it happened. she got some help and is married with kids now.
i had the manic ,multi personality abusive mom and that was without drugs or drinking,and the dad who just stayed busy and gone ,as much as possible. leaving me 3 older brothers an little sis to fend and feed ourselves. me an oldest bro worked for anyone to get away an have money for bikes and later cars.
again sorry Cooter,the stuff people put kids thru is mind blowing sometimes. read lots of your post in 2 yrs ive been here. most of my cars are low dollar starters and built with what i can afford or trade for.take care,dj p.s. my youngest will be 21 in january a son,son 23. my girl 31 with new granbaby are not biologicol ,but dad sence she was 2 yrs old,she treats me better than my bio sons. sons were 8 an 10 when wife devorced me an moved them out of my house. well life can get messy . my dad an oldest bro had lots of 56 ta 59 plys and a hemi desoto.
Spring is just around the corner. It'll get better. :cheers: :grouphug:
Wow DJ, I really don't know what to say? When I see people who live with the life situations that you were given, it makes me realize how blessed I am. That doesn't help you though does it?
I am going to tell you what helps me when I am lost. It is the Lord. Believe me I am not a religious man by any means. I have done my share of mis deeds, and regret... most of it, probably don't deserve the life I lead. But I am a believer in the Lord, he is there for us. A man needs to help himself first. The Lord wont do it all for us. The better path to take is sometimes not clear, cant be seen by us sometimes. But if we ask him to lead the way to a better life for us, amazingly the path will show itself. It has for me time an again. We don't walk this earth alone.
Best wishes to you my friend. I pray that you find a way to less pain, and a more fulfilling life.
Quote from: Paul G on February 20, 2015, 09:46:18 PM
Wow DJ, I really don't know what to say? When I see people who live with the life situations that you were given, it makes me realize how blessed I am. That doesn't help you though does it?
I am going to tell you what helps me when I am lost. It is the Lord. Believe me I am not a religious man by any means. I have done my share of mis deeds, and regret... most of it, probably don't deserve the life I lead. But I am a believer in the Lord, he is there for us. A man needs to help himself first. The Lord wont do it all for us. The better path to take is sometimes not clear, cant be seen by us sometimes. But if we ask him to lead the way to a better life for us, amazingly the path will show itself. It has for me time an again. We don't walk this earth alone.
Best wishes to you my friend. I pray that you find a way to less pain, and a more fulfilling life.
Not bad. Not bad at all. I agree for the most part.
Quote from: Bobs69 on January 21, 2015, 12:26:57 AM
I'm getting depressed because no one acknowledges my posts!
Howdy Bob,,i acknowledge your post.planned to reply last month .but was feeling the same an in the winter blahs an depression. did not feel sure i had any helpful ideas. then i did not post anything for a month,anywhere. seems lots of the old posters here are taking breaks or else where??
iam out west coast an should be glad,some sun an no hard winter.lots of fog an boredom. what part of usa ya in or world?? hope ya doing better this month? saw daytona today was good till that butt head won,haha.well heres hoping we all get some sun an lift in spirits from something healthy.
trying to plan an look toward birth of granson an summer car fun. have to get my 67 belve ragtop out this summer been 12 yrs setting,owned 30 yrs this april.its blocked in garage with broke down 81 trans am.. time get going an fix me an some of my junk,,,,i guess..take care out there.DJ
I know it's a winter thread but I'm not doing so good. I don't expect you guys to do anything about it, I just needed to share. Life's been challenging lately to put it mildly.
I hope you're doing alright DJ!
Dino, drive you car. You'll feel better.
I will say this; I saw something play out and go full circle this week at work. A couple of years ago, One of the guys was having a hard time at work. Our supervisor was not the easist man to work for. He did not know how to lift his men with guidance and teaching skills, he would belittle and berate people who were having a hard time.
So this guy I am referring to came to me, maybe just to vent, maybe to bounce his plan off of me. He was contemplating looking for another job. The Boss was really getting to him. This guy is basically un skilled, high school diploma only, but he has mechanical ability, we are in maintenance for a small utility company. My suggestion to him was to wait it out. I asked where else could he find a job that pays like this one, has the health insurance benefit like we get (it is a good plan), 401K with matching, paid time off, etc. This job provided good for his family.
These guys in this crew, the Boss and the workers, all went to the same high school, all the same race, (Nepotism?) they lived in the same town, went on hunting trips, family partys and stuff like that. which means there lives were intertwined more than what you would expect. So, for this guy having problems, I suggested to him he step back a little from the Boss. Dont be so friendly, just do his job to the best of his ability. But not be friends so much.
For the end of the story now. The Boss left the company last month. The foreman moved up to supervisor, this guy I am talking about got the foreman job.
I guess what the moral is, when times get tough just step back a little, concetrate on what is important, and as time moves forward life always gets better. It does.
Quote from: Bobs69 on February 22, 2015, 02:32:50 PM
Quote from: Paul G on February 20, 2015, 09:46:18 PM
Wow DJ, I really don't know what to say? When I see people who live with the life situations that you were given, it makes me realize how blessed I am. That doesn't help you though does it?
I am going to tell you what helps me when I am lost. It is the Lord. Believe me I am not a religious man by any means. I have done my share of mis deeds, and regret... most of it, probably don't deserve the life I lead. But I am a believer in the Lord, he is there for us. A man needs to help himself first. The Lord wont do it all for us. The better path to take is sometimes not clear, cant be seen by us sometimes. But if we ask him to lead the way to a better life for us, amazingly the path will show itself. It has for me time an again. We don't walk this earth alone.
Best wishes to you my friend. I pray that you find a way to less pain, and a more fulfilling life.
Not bad. Not bad at all. I agree for the most part.
"Ditto."
I to have been suffering. I like the poem "foot steps" they usually hand out at funerals.
Throughout my life on at least three occasions something bigger then myself has carried me and taken my load. It's been a long time, but on those occasions I know I was being helped.
Not sure what to tell you. It's a battle every day.
Quote from: Dino on June 27, 2015, 10:34:31 AM
I know it's a winter thread but I'm not doing so good. I don't expect you guys to do anything about it, I just needed to share. Life's been challenging lately to put it mildly.
I hope you're doing alright DJ!
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Hang in there guys, I'm doing my very best to do just that as well.
7 weeks after losing our cat Watson, his buddy Charlie had to have surgery today today to remove a mass. They found a second mass and enlarged lymph nodes. Charlie is doing well but he may not be around for much longer and the thought of it is sometimes a bit much to take. They are only 10 years old.
I've had more things go wrong in the last 2 months than in the previous 5 years and I have to admit I have a hard time coping. I know things will get better in the long run, but right now I feel pretty miserable.
I fell into a pretty bad depression and I'm using all my might to pull myself out of it. I long for the day where I can smile again.
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Quote from: Bobs69 on January 21, 2015, 12:26:57 AM
I'm getting depressed because no one acknowledges my posts!
Howdy Bob,,i acknowledge your post.planned to reply last month .but was feeling the same an in the winter blahs an depression. did not feel sure i had any helpful ideas. then i did not post anything for a month,anywhere. seems lots of the old posters here are taking breaks or else where??
iam out west coast an should be glad,some sun an no hard winter.lots of fog an boredom. what part of usa ya in or world?? hope ya doing better this month? saw daytona today was good till that butt head won,haha.well heres hoping we all get some sun an lift in spirits from something healthy.
trying to plan an look toward birth of granson an summer car fun. have to get my 67 belve ragtop out this summer been 12 yrs setting,owned 30 yrs this april.its blocked in garage with broke down 81 trans am.. time get going an fix me an some of my junk,,,,i guess..take care out there.DJ
Thanks for asking. I'm in Ontario Canada. I fell like a salmon, two steps forward, one back.
:cheers: :cheers: :pity: :pity: :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :scratchchin: :cheers:
Quote from: Dino on July 14, 2015, 08:17:40 PM
Hang in there guys, I'm doing my very best to do just that as well.
7 weeks after losing our cat Watson, his buddy Charlie had to have surgery today today to remove a mass. They found a second mass and enlarged lymph nodes. Charlie is doing well but he may not be around for much longer and the thought of it is sometimes a bit much to take. They are only 10 years old.
I've had more things go wrong in the last 2 months than in the previous 5 years and I have to admit I have a hard time coping. I know things will get better in the long run, but right now I feel pretty miserable.
I fell into a pretty bad depression and I'm using all my might to pull myself out of it. I long for the day where I can smile again.
It may not work for others, it doesn't even make sense to me, but I take all of the priceless, joyful moments that I remember experiencing with my departed loved ones and I hold on to them like a blanket, and I go over them in my head like a rosary. We're usually so overwhelmed with grief, so I try and mix the good memories with the bad memories, or the experience of losing someone close. In a way I sort of feel as if the loss is just a reminder to celebrate the joy and life we shared, and in that way our loved ones and our memories of them are immortalized. Whatever we do, we can't forget...
That's all we can do I suppose. Being in healthcare I can rationalize these things pretty good, but when several bad things happen in succession, it becomes hard to even think straight.
Oh, I totally agree, Dino. Working in law enforcement it is kind of the same way. You only hear and see prominently bad things that either are acted towards you or happen to other people. Fires, burglaries, sudden death, suicide, etc. It all takes its toll. But then you do have some good days where you get a 3 yr old who was unconscious and not breathing brought back to life by giving CPR over the phone to the mother even before the patrol cars or EMS get there. One word comes to mind with that...... PRICELESS ! :cheers:
Quote from: Dino on July 14, 2015, 08:17:40 PM
Hang in there guys, I'm doing my very best to do just that as well.
7 weeks after losing our cat Watson, his buddy Charlie had to have surgery today today to remove a mass. They found a second mass and enlarged lymph nodes. Charlie is doing well but he may not be around for much longer and the thought of it is sometimes a bit much to take. They are only 10 years old.
I've had more things go wrong in the last 2 months than in the previous 5 years and I have to admit I have a hard time coping. I know things will get better in the long run, but right now I feel pretty miserable.
I fell into a pretty bad depression and I'm using all my might to pull myself out of it. I long for the day where I can smile again.
if you need to talk Dino, you can message me. We adopted my dear Aunt Gwen's little Manx Arielle, 3 years ago. My aunt passed unexpected on Christmas. And Arielle has been a blessing to our house. I took her to the vet for what I thought was an absess on her chin. She weighed a little over 6 lbs last year. And she was down to 5 lbs. The vet wanted to run tests on her. She had thyroid disease and is in kidney failure. I cried my eyes out. It hasn't been that long since we lost Shelby's cat from the same issues. It just breaks my break heart. Our little fur babies become a part of our family. Hugs, Jackie
I made a huge decision months back. I quite my job of 14+ years and went back to school for a law enforcement job. Then I got stationed away from home. I knew that was the chance I was taking.
I couldn't stand listening to myself bitch all the time about the job I had. Even tho it paid good and gave me a pension, it just wasn't good enough. I worked with a bunch of people I couldn't stand, I'd never have the assholes over for a BBQ. It got to the point where I wasn't enjoying my time off and I was always in a bad mood. My wife and I knew it would be hard, but so is getting up and going to a job you hate everyday, then bringing that home with you.
I made the right decision for the long run, but now I'm working my plan and it's tuff. Learning curve is steep, I'm renting a very small place, in a smaller town, and I don't know anyone well enough to hang out with. So, I'm hoping my gamble will pay off. If so I'll be sitting pretty when I get back home (financially).
After 23 years of Law Enforcement, I'm glad it's over. Good luck.
Something to consider. I started at the company I now work for 6 years ago. The fella I worked most closely with started out kind of ok, then got worse. It got the point that I really could not stand being around him anymore. Reasons to numerous to mention. I had to make the decision to look for another job, or do something to make life better. I decided to go out of my way to make this awful person miserable, more miserable than he was making me. There is a lot you can do when you put your mind to it. Passive aggressive behavior works, so does the silent treatment. What worked best was acting like him, to him. He hated it. When a person can dish it out but cant take it, you found your answer. He finally decided to quit, he retired actually. Just as I started to enjoy going to work. The other guys told me that no one has ever stood up to him before. He picked on everyone. To him it was fun, not so much for the others.
It might be have been a terrible thing to do to someone, how I treated him. But it was nothing he didnt do to others. So there you go.
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Quote from: Dino on July 14, 2015, 08:17:40 PM
Hang in there guys, I'm doing my very best to do just that as well.
7 weeks after losing our cat Watson, his buddy Charlie had to have surgery today today to remove a mass. They found a second mass and enlarged lymph nodes. Charlie is doing well but he may not be around for much longer and the thought of it is sometimes a bit much to take. They are only 10 years old.
I've had more things go wrong in the last 2 months than in the previous 5 years and I have to admit I have a hard time coping. I know things will get better in the long run, but right now I feel pretty miserable.
I fell into a pretty bad depression and I'm using all my might to pull myself out of it. I long for the day where I can smile again.
if you need to talk Dino, you can message me. We adopted my dear Aunt Gwen's little Manx Arielle, 3 years ago. My aunt passed unexpected on Christmas. And Arielle has been a blessing to our house. I took her to the vet for what I thought was an absess on her chin. She weighed a little over 6 lbs last year. And she was down to 5 lbs. The vet wanted to run tests on her. She had thyroid disease and is in kidney failure. I cried my eyes out. It hasn't been that long since we lost Shelby's cat from the same issues. It just breaks my break heart. Our little fur babies become a part of our family. Hugs, Jackie
I missed this post, didn't get notification again.
Thanks Jackie, I'll be alright but the same goes for you, message me if you want to talk.
Charlie had one chemo treatment but it made him so sick for days on end that we decided not to treat him any further. We have him on mild medication to prevent him from suffering so it's purely comfort care from now on.. I don't know how long he'll be with us so every day is a gift. If it turns and je gets sick again we will not let him suffer. It truly is heartbreaking. These fuzzballs become family, the kind you actually like. ;)
I'm truly sorry to hear about your loss, the pain is so intense that sometimes it's hard to function. I miss Watson every single day and I'm crying my eyes out just typing this. He was my buddy and I'll never be able to hold him again.
It's amazing how much love develops between us and our pets. They truly do become a family member. :pity:
Quote from: Paul G on August 13, 2015, 05:43:59 PM
Something to consider. I started at the company I now work for 6 years ago. The fella I worked most closely with started out kind of ok, then got worse. It got the point that I really could not stand being around him anymore. Reasons to numerous to mention. I had to make the decision to look for another job, or do something to make life better. I decided to go out of my way to make this awful person miserable, more miserable than he was making me. There is a lot you can do when you put your mind to it. Passive aggressive behavior works, so does the silent treatment. What worked best was acting like him, to him. He hated it. When a person can dish it out but cant take it, you found your answer. He finally decided to quit, he retired actually. Just as I started to enjoy going to work. The other guys told me that no one has ever stood up to him before. He picked on everyone. To him it was fun, not so much for the others.
It might be have been a terrible thing to do to someone, how I treated him. But it was nothing he didnt do to others. So there you go.
I had done that too. Acting like him, even treated him as family to put as much stress as possible in him. It was stressful, yet enjoyable. Not sure I'd put the same energy into an asshole like that again. Depends. Problem is hee learned from me. Once I realized that I stopped challenging him.
My wife had to put our dog to sleep today. That's all I can say at the moment, the pain is excruciating.
That really sucks. We are all going there someday. Live for today.
Spring came & went, summer's about over. Unfortunately I haven't been able to shake the winter doldrums.
The Dr. put me on a new anti depressant, been on it since Tuesday. My brain's mush. :-\ Fetzima, supposedly for major depression. :shruggy:
Most likely only a short term fix but an old work buddy came over today. I haven't seen him since running into him at a car show I was in. Before that was when I left dispatch around '04. He was the hardest worker I've ever had the opportunity to work with. No sloucher.
But we got to talking about old times...for about 4 hours. :coolgleamA: It was gratifying to hear how a couple oilers have blew up the planetaries in my old ( not really, I got it new ) crane. I never tore up any kind of drivetrain while I worked there & I've had cranes in some pretty intense situations. I told him as well but the more he talked the better I felt about myself & how I was able to maneuver & navigate the toughest of jobsites.
First rule of thumb, if you're under throttle with one of those big bitches & you're crawling along & all of a sudden stop or even hear the motor start to wind up, nail the brakes to get that axle to stop spinning. When the axle is freewheeling it's prolly doing at least 20-30 mph & all of a sudden half a million pounds come in contact with sticky ground, something's gonna snap.
Of course the cool, easy, feel good about myself isn't permanent. I'm still pretty proud of myself.
Now our Golden Retriever is acting weird. Almost like his mid section is hurting. He's eating & drinking like normal so we're keeping any eye on him.
After reading these posts & now our little pupster is acting up I told the wife that maybe owning pets isn't such a good idea seeings how we I'll never be prepared for saying good bye.
She just shook her head & rolled her eyes.
My wife thinks it's special that her husband likes cats. :icon_smile_wink:
My car guy uncle passed last week ,memorial the 5th 5 hrs away. we have done car hunts an buys together for decade,back to the 70es,when i was a teen. did not even get word he was back in hospital.'
sunday pulled or pinched my back with days of pain this week .few days real low missing my sons an popping pills for pain .stuck in my chair with my mind going to dark places an ideas. got out side an had a better day.
hay 472RT SE new meds can bee hell,never been on the one ya said. have 19 yrs on an off 6-8 diff meds.off meds for summer again as i feel i get more done an can ,,,,think i do good in summer??? but shorter days an summer stuff ends tomorrow here,our friday nite show..
YA ALL TAKE CARE AN HOLD ON.. LATTTTTTTTTTERERERERER DJ :RantExplode: :shruggy:
Quote from: djcarguy on August 28, 2015, 02:39:29 AM
My car guy uncle passed last week ,memorial the 5th 5 hrs away.
Dj, the 5th is more than 5 hours away. :nana:
Sorry to hear this. Careful with those pills. :yesnod:
Set yourself some realistic goals Dj. Think of things that you've always wanted or wanted to do and focus on doing those things. Especially if they might be considered selfish. Hell, post them up here and maybe some of us might be able to help out with something. :2thumbs:
Chuck. :cheers:
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My 23 yr old son flys back to germany today has till dec 2016 there.hadnt seen him for 10 month was great but short visit ,he stayed at his moms. great kid ,miss him more again now after seeing again.
did not go to uncles momorial 9-5-15.called his son ,sent my best an told him to hug a few others for me. 5 hr drive in my 30 yr 200k old car on labor day an all that sad stuff was not up too it.plan to go up round Turkey day ,,happier times,i hope.
well 6 am son is at airport?? an iam a sad dad an my brain is stuck in high gear.so eeeeing an posting to try an focus on anything else????????not working too good,think i will go food shopping an get sugary stuff that will put me in sugar over load an make me sleepy???????maybee old movie an knod off for a while.............hope ya guys are all doing good out there ,make plans an bee strong..DJ :2thumbs:
Quote from: djcarguy on November 22, 2012, 06:19:17 AM
NEWS FLASH;;;;; GOVERNMENT STUDY ::::: WARNS ABOUT POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS WITH THE MIXING OF TURKEY,,,MEDICATION AND FOOTBALL AND DRINKING:::: THAT COMBINED WITH OVER EATING ,FAMILY AND STRESS MAY CAUSE LOSS OF SELF CONTROL,LONG PERIODS OF BLACK OUTS AND DROOLING:::
EXTREME CAUTIONS IS ADVISED ,,,HAHAHAHA KIDDING HAVE A GOOD TURKEY DAY..........ALSO PLEASE KEEP IN MIND MEDS AND DRINKING CAN BE A VERY BAD COMBO,WITH FAMILY AND STRESSES......... EVEN WITH OUT MEDS,,,
IF FEELING DEPRESSED OR DOWM IN DUMPS-BLUES,,DRINKING CAN TAKE YOU OVER THE EDGE... BEEE CAREFUL AND SAFE,OUT THERE. HAPPY BIRD DAY,WELL NOT FOR THE BIRDS,HAHA.. WHO LIKES DUCKS I HAVE 4 HANGING OUT IN BACK YARD,HAVE BEEN FATTENING THEM UP .FEED THEM LOTS OF OLD APPLES TOO ,FUN TO WATCH DRUCK DUCK,,WADDLE.HAHAHA
HAVE A SAFE DAY, I BEEEEE STAYING HOME WITH HEAD COLD AN CHICKEN DINNER,,NO ENERGY TA CATCH AN FIX A DUCK RIGHT NOW. SEE YA ON THE OTHER SIDE IF YA BELLE ANT IN THE WAY. 3 AM ON COLD MEDS AND LACK OF SLEEP..LATTTERR DJ
feelin down ?/ 1/2 off lots car stuff at HOBBY LOBBY an looks at lots of the old model kits,aero 426 said phone app for 40 % 0ff models an stuff.
CRAZY HOLIDAYS AN WINTER HERE AGAIN?? IAM TRYING TO FIND UPLIFTING STUFF AN MAKING WHOLE 3 NO BED HOME MANCAVE..TAKE CARE OUT THERE AN POST IF YA NEED TO VENT OR SOME SUPORT FROM OTHER CAR MINDED SRANGE DUDES.EVEN US HE-MAN NEED TO LET DOWN AN VENT OR ASK FOR HELP SOMETIMES...
TAKE CARE AN FIND SOME FUN EVEN IF ITS SMALL DISTRACTION TO GET MIND ON SOMETHING ELSE FOR AWHILE......LATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTEEEEEEEEERRRRRRRRR.DJ DART AN TOY JUNKIE :drool5: :2thumbs: :cheers: :nana: :pity: :pity: NOT PITY JUST BRO SUPPORT :pity:
Had my meat loaf THANKS GIVING WITH my 34 yr old girl,her hubby an JOanna-3yr an BRian 8months, MY grankids,monday.was a good time an enjoyed seeing them an kidingly told my girl that was the best turkey ever,we had meat loaf ,tators,an a great salad,BEETS AN CRESSIONS?SP TWIST,ROLLED ,FRENCE DINNER ROLL THING>>??
was there 4 hrs an home by 9;30 an sleep by 10. son inlaw is into cars so we get along an have stuff to talk about. except not thursday was a good time. my girls mom is on her 3rd or so hubby since i lived with her ,so we tallerate each other on B-days an stuff . But iam black listed from TURKEY day an X_MAS stuff the last few years since latest hubby got hook my her. :pity:
WELL HOPING YA ALL A GOOD TURKEY DAY OUT THERE. IF YA BORED LOG ON SURE FEW OF US WILL BEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE HERE TO SEE WHATS GOING ON. ITS SUNNY HERE IN OREGON,IF YA CLOSE BY I WILL BEE COOKING 10 LBS OF CHICKEN DARK MEAT LEGS AN THIGHS,,HATE WHITE MEAT,HAHAHAHA.. TAKE CARE OUT THERE..DJ--BYE OFF TOY SHOPPING,HAHAHA
HAVE A GOOD THANKS GIVING AN BEEEEE GOOD TO YOURSELF AN FAMILY. :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :cheers: DJ
Like many, a lot of crap has happened with my family in the last few years.......but a lot of good things happened too. :yesnod:
Don't let the bad overshadow the good.
This is a good day to remember that. A good Thanksgiving to all. :2thumbs:
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Quote from: djcarguy on November 22, 2012, 06:19:17 AM
NEWS FLASH;;;;; GOVERNMENT STUDY ::::: WARNS ABOUT POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS WITH THE MIXING OF TURKEY,,,MEDICATION AND FOOTBALL AND DRINKING:::: THAT COMBINED WITH OVER EATING ,FAMILY AND STRESS MAY CAUSE LOSS OF SELF CONTROL,LONG PERIODS OF BLACK OUTS AND DROOLING:::
EXTREME CAUTIONS IS ADVISED ,,,HAHAHAHA KIDDING HAVE A GOOD TURKEY DAY..........ALSO PLEASE KEEP IN MIND MEDS AND DRINKING CAN BE A VERY BAD COMBO,WITH FAMILY AND STRESSES......... EVEN WITH OUT MEDS,,,
IF FEELING DEPRESSED OR DOWM IN DUMPS-BLUES,,DRINKING CAN TAKE YOU OVER THE EDGE... BEEE CAREFUL AND SAFE,OUT THERE. HAPPY BIRD DAY,WELL NOT FOR THE BIRDS,HAHA.. WHO LIKES DUCKS I HAVE 4 HANGING OUT IN BACK YARD,HAVE BEEN FATTENING THEM UP .FEED THEM LOTS OF OLD APPLES TOO ,FUN TO WATCH DRUCK DUCK,,WADDLE.HAHAHA
HAVE A SAFE DAY, I BEEEEE STAYING HOME WITH HEAD COLD AN CHICKEN DINNER,,NO ENERGY TA CATCH AN FIX A DUCK RIGHT NOW. SEE YA ON THE OTHER SIDE IF YA BELLE ANT IN THE WAY. 3 AM ON COLD MEDS AND LACK OF SLEEP..LATTTERR DJ
WEEK TILL THE BIG DAY AN IAM OUT OF VODKA ALLREADY?? BEST WISHES AN HOPE EVERYONE HAS A GOOD SILLY SEASON AND PLANS FOR A BETTER NEW YEAR.BEST TA YA AN YOUR PLANS? TAKE CARE OUT THERE,AND BEEEEEE GOOD TA YA SELF. LATTTTER dj :2thumbs: :cheers: :2thumbs: :cheers:
Christmas is going to suck this year. My Mom died last week and we were really close. She was only 77.
Sorry to hear that. :pity:
As am I Acudanut, don't let it get in the way of the clear picture and a reason to celebrate Christmas. Didn't look like my wife was ever going to put a tree up, with our daughter passing in August, but while Leah was out on Friday I put the tree up. I put it in a different room and moved some furniture so it would fit, as generally where the tree would go was the front room our daughter spent the last few weeks in on our main floor. Gonna be tough, but for those of us still here life moves forward while we feed off the memories of the past. Merry Christmas, be well ! Wayne
Quote from: ACUDANUT on December 20, 2015, 11:53:03 AM
Christmas is going to suck this year. My Mom died last week and we were really close. She was only 77.
My condolences on your loss....
Acudanut I am very sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies.
Thank you guys. I miss her so much already. Like all Moms, she carried our burdens and trials in life and was always to go to person for life issues. If your Mom is still alive, call her.
My condolences to you.
When my Mom passed in 04 For some reason I felt like an orphan. I have 5 sisters and a family of my own, but I still felt like I was alone in the world after her passing. Oddly, others I spoke with about this had similar feelings.
I watched my parents deal with the sorrow of loosing their parents as the grandparents passed, then I had to go through it as my parents passed. Eventually our children will go through it as well. Such is life I guess. Live every day to its fullest.
Best wishes.
13 Days sober again,not sure why for me its easy to stop for 1-6 months at a time, then the patterns or stress seem to kick in again.
Back round Tky-day i was very low an depressed,got busy buying toys an models,was fun for a week or 2. then started drinking the long evenings away.Friday week before X-mas was on way out to buy more vodka. Nice little old nayber lady came over with lemon pie an bag of chex mix .She wanted to know if i was ok an how i was.Saying thanks for doing her yard work for being a good nayber,an Merry X mas. so i ate some pie an watched the news bout a 8 yr old girl who lost her family in a fire. how her ant an unckle took her in an started some go fund me page to help with her burns. like 500k people had sent her cards an money.It really touched me.as i have always donated to saint judes an kids causes.
i have not drank or got an more booze an for now,,13 days. just been staying home an behaving myself.been to church few times in last week an a half. spoilling my self with pie,ice cream an sugary stuff.
but no personal contact the 24-25-26 was very depressing an sad.only spoken words for those 3 days was my girl called few minute Xmas day an she kept saying only have few minutes then off to her inlaws. no call or even a email from 2 sons ,4 sibling or mom ...no mom call no biggy to me. have to go to wally mart or food store to talk,it sucks. sure missing summer an car stuff an contact.YES <I THANK some good guys an times on this site. tring to make some plans an joining a model club...well take care out there,Iam tring to plan an look to the new year..lattter DJ
You need to keep yourself busy dj. Idle time is dangerous for anyone with addiction or depression. Seems like you've got all 3 mixing together. Get out and go exploring every day. Try and get involved with your church and community helping others less fortunate. I think you're lacking praise, feeling needed and lonely.
Doing what I said would fill those voids. There's a lot of people out there that could really use your help dj and in return it will help you. :Twocents: :yesnod:
One day at a time.
Living's easy, you just have to wake up and breath. It's the choices we make that make living hard.
Focus on something and make it happen. That's great that you've gone to church a few times. :2thumbs: Volunteer to help everywhere you can. :yesnod:
Chuck. :cheers: :2thumbs:
Really think you should try to avoid alcohol if possible, taking a depressant while depressed already isn't a good combo. Read you are stopped again, keep at it. I should talk, I don't drink but I do smoke...and need to quit. Plan on quitting for the new year, but absolutely positive i'll fall off the wagon a time or two in the process.
As for depression, I fight daily bouts with it now, only had to work out of a deep dark episode once before, but now I find myself on the border. Others seem to think me being talkative means i'm in a good mood, but it isn't, just means I don't want to burden others that can't do anything to help from worrying too much. I do have a way out, can take prescribed pain killers and anti depressants if I want to, choose not to take the AD drugs. they keep you feeling drugged all day, and I prefer to avoid that. Can self medicate with my own garden if I want. Lately not feeling like life is getting better, feel its slowly getting worse, every piece of good news I get, is balanced with a piece of not so good news that I get soon afterward. Over the holidays I was allowed to put off the next series of treatments so I could visit family, that ends next week and I'm back on the 3 week regimen of chemo, recover, start feeling normal then start it all over again. Non stop blood tests, 3 months of chemo treatments then more CT scans or PET scans to judge if treatment is doing anything.
Keep telling myself to give myself a reward for surviving last six months...and because I may not be able to enjoy things much longer. Not feeling healthier, feel like i'm drained all the time, even though I do spend a lot of time with my cars, not getting much done on them. I did get to sell one of them a couple weeks ago, and have hopes of selling another soon, then have to decide how long to hold on to the most important car, actually took titles to dmv this week to add wifes name to each title. Only stupid requirements by DMV saved me from completing this task, have to fill out old titles like I sold them to wife...just to add her to title. Seems stupid to me.
This weekend could be a very expensive weekend or not, all depends on if I opt to go the reward route, will cost me about 8k, and may add some smiles per mile, but doubt it will use it that much. But it is on the car I use a lot still. Plan on taking it to Mr Norm's shop for an upgrade, just haven't called and ordered the part yet, keep putting it off because its a large purchase.
May day, E-mail virue deleted all my new an old an saved mails... Is there a way to recover them???
First time it just deleted line by line the new ones,an i was able to recover some ,or restore from the deleted bin. THen it deleted al new, old and delete the one in the delete or restore last stop box???
IAM asking for help as emails is main contact i have to out side,1 son an 4 sibling an few other relatives an friends? had saved messages from bubba friend of 40 yrs who passed few yrs ago ,from als. an info of facebook an pay-pal passwords,stuff like that.
ANY WAY to recover? have new computer waiting was trying to find way to save important stuff over to new one? well guess i could take it as a sign new year ,new computer an start over? have stuff ,messages back to 07 when my dad died,bubba few yrs ago .
have not clicked on address book to see if its gone as i dont want to possibly let it spead to it??
WEll was not sure where to ask?? lattter DJ any info helpful,thanks DJ
Happy new year everyone and god willing it will be a happy one....
I've been struggling off and on for the last 6 months with the usual depression issues so two weeks ago I finally quit smoking marijuana as it was/ is the root cause of my problems. After 31 years (I'm 43) of HEAVY and I mean HEAVY use, it's about time.
The chief reason was/ is, I started vaping "shatter" which if you don't know, is extremely concentrated THC extracted using butane and my wife astutely observed that after two months of heavy use, I was very aggressive, and very likely to fly off the handle for no rel reason at all. I of course yelled at her that it's (the shatter) not the problem. Two day later my business partner said basically the same thing..... The following Saturday, hit the the concentrate and had major anxiety all day, it was then that I finally woke up and realized that I was done with it
Of course I've been going through depression and anxiety because of it as it's been part of me for 3/4 of my life, but it's nothing compared to the anxiety that I would have regularly from smoking it, and being rather depressive it certainly wasn't helping.
I would also like to add an uplifting story (for me at least)
About four months ago, one of my close friends revealed to me that he has stage 4 melanoma (skin cancer) and that he had been running a low grade fever for the last year and that it could take him at any time.
Two months later I hadn't heard from him so I drove by his house only to find it vacant and up for sale. I immediately called his phone only to find it disconnected. Needless to say, I was in tears by the time I got home.
I've lost so many dear loved ones in the last 16 years I just couldn't believe that I'd lost another.
Fast forward to last week, I at Disneyland with my beautiful family when out of the blue (my eyes are welling up as I type this) this friend calls me from a number I didn't recognize and leaves me a message. Standing in line for the monster inc ride, I listen hear his voice and instantaneously start crying tears of joy. My wife and kids are asking "whats wrong?" and I can barely say "it's tears of joy"
He had quit his job of 20 years, moved to oak harbor, lost the fever and has never felt better, praise the lord and with his will he'll be around for a long while....
:cheers:
Good for you HANDM. :cheers:
If anyone needs someone to talk to, or to work through a depression episode, send me a PM and I'll give you my phone number. Having someone to talk to is important in getting through tough episodes of depression. I'm home all the time now, and have nothing to do all day unless I force myself to go outside and accomplish something.
It was probably a mistake to push for a prognosis from the cancer docs, after hearing what I asked to hear, been a bit more depressed than before, mainly because I found my time span to survive has dropped considerably. I'll find out the next status update on Monday, I usually take the wife with me for CT Scan reviews. After the doc apt we're going to dmv to put the cars in her name as well as mine, just to simplify things when my health fails.
Have something to look forward to now though, have to wait a month for part to arrive, then several weeks to have it installed for me. But having a goal has been uplifting some.
I haven't been reading all the posts completely I'll admit.
However, I struggle with depression all the time. I have for years. I certainly don't have the all the answers. However:
Eat right
Set obtainable goals
Reward yourself. ( I had a buddy that would get excited about successfully swapping windshield wiper blades and reward himself by taking the old car out for a test drive.)
Very, very, very VERY hard to do - stop looking for approval from people.
Exercise.
A reason to get out of bed in the morning even when you are not working.
Don't compete with others.
Keep family close (and the important people)
Anyone else got some ideas for us?
All good stuff Bob. :2thumbs:
So last week I found out I will no longer be going into the military due to possible epilepsy, which I had failed to disclose on my form (they had access to my medical records), and the company I sold my Dart to start up, is now on the verge of bankruptcy (which also means personal bankruptcy) due to no work.
If you were trying to get into the military then you must be fairly young. That is probably an asset that many uf us would give up quite a bit to have. You can recover from quite a bit with time. Remember the old sage advice..."Time heals all wounds"
I don't know why people would use an online forum to express such intense, personal details about themselves. I see posts quite often where the OP cries on and on about the cheating wife, asshole kids, people close to them that died, etc. I've had some shitty stuff happen to me just like anyone else but I don't understand why they'd open themselves up like that to strangers. This stuff we post online stays out there forever.
Quote from: Kern Dog on December 07, 2016, 11:43:41 PM
I don't know why people would use an online forum to express such intense, personal details about themselves. I see posts quite often where the OP cries on and on about the cheating wife, asshole kids, people close to them that died, etc. I've had some shitty stuff happen to me just like anyone else but I don't understand why they'd open themselves up like that to strangers. This stuff we post online stays out there forever.
A lot of people dont have a good support system around them (family/friends, etc) and this may be the only outlet they have to express their frustrations, etc.
I personally wouldnt do it, as im a fairly private person, but I understand why some do. If it somehow helps them deal with their issues, then good for them.
Quote from: djcarguy on November 25, 2016, 10:14:33 AM
Quote from: djcarguy on November 13, 2012, 04:07:47 AM
DEPRESSION, OR WINTER BLUES AND SAD TIME THAT LAST,,, PLEASE ASK DOC AND FAMILY OR FRIENDS FOR HELP.
THIS HAS BEEN ON MY MIND ALOT THIS LAST WEEK . IF YOU ARE FEELING DOWN AND SAD,PLEASE REACH OUT.
I HAVE LOST FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND BEEN THRU THIS FOR YEARS MYSELF 30 SOME. NOW MEDS LAST 16 YRS.
PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE ,AND IF ANY DARK IDEAS OR MOODS LAST REACH OUT FOR HELP. THE MIND IS THICKY AND WE CAN NOT JUST WILL THINGS BETTER,OR JUST SNAP OUT OF IT.
SO PLEASE ASK AND GET HELP ,AND THINGS CAN GET BETTER. I AM VERY CONCERNED LATLY BOUT THIS AND THE TIMES AND STRESSES PEOPLE ARE DEALING WITH,THESE DAYS... OK TO PM ME IF YOU DONT WANT TO REPLY IN OPEN ,ITS OK.LATTTER DAVID J WE CAN ALL USE A FRIEND OR HAND SOMETIMES : :2thumbs:
I am not going to go back and read this whole thread. Reading anything with so many errors and all in capital letters just makes me :brickwall:
The OP does have a point though.
Mental health is a real problem for some, yet admitting the problem is humiliating for most people. Imagine that you get the courage to admit that you do not have control of your own mind, only to deal with people that never trust or believe what you have to say later.
I am speaking hypothetically, though like anyone else, I have good days and bad. I have never considered suicide and I have never known anyone who has tried.
I have dealt with a few aches and pains due to my many years in construction. There have been times where I have been in such pain, I would have done almost anything to stop it. What about the people that deal with this every day? The religious people that bemoan assisted suicide as being a mortal sin are entitled to that opinion but holy crap...A person sees no end to the pain except a peaceful passing and they tell the afflicted that they are going to hell ?? :slap:
Depression blues?
I get the Winter blues pretty much every year. If I am in between jobs, I want to sleep in every day. My motivation to do things is limited. I feel like hibernating until mid February when the weather starts getting better and the daylight hours are longer. I never feel like hurting myself or anyone else, I just switch from being outgoing and engaged to being introverted and lazy. To those that do feel depressed, angry, vengeful or destructive, I can only guess that keeping it to yourself AND being by yourself is probably not good. You hear stories about otherwise sane people that dramatically change after using drugs or alcohol, right? This is surely due to the chemical changes that occur. Mental illness is often tied to a chemical imbalance too. This is some powerful stuff.
Most wonderful time of the year?
Not for everyone. To those having trouble, please think of it this way: Do not do anything permanent in the effort to solve a problem that is probably temporary.
I think there is a lot of ignorance around mental health.
Yeah there's a chance people won't trust you anymore (ignorant people looking for an excuse to take you down). I speak from experience. Rest assured I came back stronger, left on my own terms and am doing better then any of those people now.
Not being able to control your own mind embarrasses you? Look at some of the sloppy people that can't control their own body ie weight control and what they stick in their mouth (booze cigarettes etc)
To draw a parallel example............ I won't die or lose because of embarrassment from something like getting a prostate examination. "Go ahead doc, probe away."
Season Greeting an hope all are doing well. Hope some of us car guys are looking forward an planning for the new year?
If you are making car plans,or life plans that may motavate others please post them.
If ,like me winter an holidays are not your best or favorite time of year,hold on new year will bee here soon.
Will be better next year,they say? who is the they saying stuff like this ??
I have a 18 lbs bird in the oven,so drop on bye. Iam trying to be up beat an have some new movies an snacks.
HAPPPPPPPYYYYYYY HOLIDAYYYSSSS AN TOO A GOOD NEW YEAR ? DJ :2thumbs:
Another Good old Boy ,early 80es an car guy has passed. he had a great out look an loved many years an makes of cars an old trucks. we went on many rides an searches for cars that interested him or me.Jess was a friend an nayber an will bee missed for alone time.
Iam in a funk my son left last night for his new base in Maryland,an news of Jess passing came this morning. Was trying to focus an plan an bee up beat for the new year.At a lose today so iam reaching out here,hoping to find a few post to take my mind off all this for a while.
Its sunny out thinking of going for a drive to get out of house before next snow an freeze hits.
God bless an keep Jess an his family an friends. Later DJ west coast
Quote from: djcarguy on November 13, 2012, 04:07:47 AM
DEPRESSION, OR WINTER BLUES AND SAD TIME THAT LAST,,, PLEASE ASK DOC AND FAMILY OR FRIENDS FOR HELP.
THIS HAS BEEN ON MY MIND ALOT THIS LAST WEEK . IF YOU ARE FEELING DOWN AND SAD,PLEASE REACH OUT.
I HAVE LOST FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND BEEN THRU THIS FOR YEARS MYSELF 30 SOME. NOW MEDS LAST 16 YRS.
PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE ,AND IF ANY DARK IDEAS OR MOODS LAST REACH OUT FOR HELP. THE MIND IS THICKY AND WE CAN NOT JUST WILL THINGS BETTER,OR JUST SNAP OUT OF IT.
SO PLEASE ASK AND GET HELP ,AND THINGS CAN GET BETTER. I AM VERY CONCERNED LATLY BOUT THIS AND THE TIMES AND STRESSES PEOPLE ARE DEALING WITH,THESE DAYS... OK TO PM ME IF YOU DONT WANT TO REPLY IN OPEN ,ITS OK.LATTTER DAVID J WE CAN ALL USE A FRIEND OR HAND SOMETIMES : :2thumbs:
No dark ideas or other unwanted ideations, but I lost my dad last week very sudden, and I'm torn to itty bitty shreds. The guy was my hero.
I'll be in Belgium for the week and then get my butt back over stateside, hopefully with somewhat of a mindset to start my next PA rotation..
A part of me died with him, I just hope I can keep it together enough to support my family.
Sorry to hear that Dino. My thoughts and condolences to you and your family. I can't imagine when that day comes. You seem to be a strong-willed and determined individual. I am sure you will find your way through this, for you and your family.
Quote from: BIGBLCK11 on November 21, 2017, 05:43:43 PM
Sorry to hear that Dino. My thoughts and condolences to you and your family. I can't imagine when that day comes. You seem to be a strong-willed and determined individual. I am sure you will find your way through this, for you and your family.
Thank you. I very much appreciate your kind words. :cheers:
Quote from: Ponch ® on December 08, 2016, 09:42:32 AM
Quote from: Kern Dog on December 07, 2016, 11:43:41 PM
I don't know why people would use an online forum to express such intense, personal details about themselves. I see posts quite often where the OP cries on and on about the cheating wife, asshole kids, people close to them that died, etc. I've had some shitty stuff happen to me just like anyone else but I don't understand why they'd open themselves up like that to strangers. This stuff we post online stays out there forever.
A lot of people dont have a good support system around them (family/friends, etc) and this may be the only outlet they have to express their frustrations, etc.
I personally wouldnt do it, as im a fairly private person, but I understand why some do. If it somehow helps them deal with their issues, then good for them.
I agree with Ponch... Things are relative to that person posting... There are many things we have in common when people utilize a board like this... So, sometimes there are instances where one possible door of insight can lead to very fulfilling and rewarding outcomes....... Experience is a great teacher and like going to school, students gain from their teachers.. This is just a different sort of classroom and counseling venue. Being pointed in the proper direction is sometimes the hardest part of healing........
Sorry to hear about your father passing Dino. Hang in there.
Chin up Dirk ! Lots of memories to look back on I'm sure. Doesn't make the whole ordeal any easier up front, but it sure helps down the road. My parents are gone, kid sister and one of my daughters.. so I have a damn good idea of what's rolling through your head. None of it's easy, but you'll smile and cry.. sometimes at the same time.
Best wishes, Wayne.
Dino - My condolences on you and your family's loss of your father. I know that it will be hard, but please do not lose sight of what you must concentrate to get your degree. I lost my father to COPD while I was in the middle of grad school so I can understand what you are going through. I wish you well in PA school.
Dino, I just opened this. My heart pours out to you. Hang in and hold dearly to the good.
My condolences Dino
Gerard Manley Hopkins (1844-1889)
Spring and Fall:
to a Young Child
Margaret, are you grieving
Over Goldengrove unleaving?
Leaves, like the things of man, you
With your fresh thoughts care for, can you?
Ah! as the heart grows older
It will come to such sights colder
By and by, nor spare a sigh
Though worlds of wanwood leafmeal lie;
And yet you will weep and know why.
Now no matter, child, the name:
Sorrow's springs are the same.
Nor mouth had, no nor mind, expressed
What heart heard of, ghost guessed:
It is the blight man was born for,
It is Margaret you mourn for.
I feel your pain Sir. A lot of us think we can keep these rare Mopars forever. We only own them for a very short time..===
Thanks guys, I'm doing alright and hanging in there. Still on track to graduate, nothing there has changed. Thanks again. :cheers:
Graduate from what ? How old you ? I wish you success. :cheers:
Quote from: djcarguy on December 24, 2016, 09:45:26 AM
Season Greeting an hope all are doing well. Hope some of us car guys are looking forward an planning for the new year?
If you are making car plans,or life plans that may motavate others please post them.
If ,like me winter an holidays are not your best or favorite time of year,hold on new year will bee here soon.
Will be better next year,they say? who is the they saying stuff like this ??
I have a 10 lbs of Bird legs&thighs will bee in the oven,so drop on bye. Iam trying to be up beat an have some new movies an snacks.
HAPPPPPPPYYYYYYY HOLIDAYYYSSSS AN TOO A GOOD NEW YEAR ? DJ :2thumbs:
:cheers: :2thumbs: MERRY X-MAS AN TO A GREAT NEW YEAR ,,Hope we all are doing ok an planning for a better new year.. Take care out there an try to treat yourself an fammily to a Happy Holiday . :2thumbs: :cheers:
Thank you djcarguy, you too! :cheers:
Been a Shitty Christmas for me. I had to put down my little buddy (Dog) yesterday.
There is not much I can say that would offer you relief. The loose of a pet is extremely painful. What you did was a selfless act. Rather then prolong your dogs pain, you put his needs above your desire the hold on.
Thanks Bob. No one else here seamed to give a damn.
I'm sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is like losing a family member. :'(
It's been a couple years since I lost my last pet, my dog Jake. I miss him a lot. Now that I'm back home (gone for work) and getting back to normal I'm trying hard to get back in the habit of "walking my dog." I benifitted from the exercise and time with him outside, it seems a shame to give that up in his absence.
Bob, I feel your loss, and I am sorry. Go to you tube and type in "feed Jake" great song. I believe it was made by the pirates of the Mississippi.
Quote from: ACUDANUT on December 25, 2017, 02:22:31 PM
Been a Shitty Christmas for me. I had to put down my little buddy (Dog) yesterday.
Sorry to hear it. So damn hard losing a much loved pet. We lost our boy nearly four years ago and have been without up until now. Have just brought home (yesterday) our new pup. She will be much loved and treasured.
I wish I could walk my Dog. However, I live in the country and the closest road to me is a gravel road and is heavily traveled. Not a good road to walk on.
In the Spring we will look for a Puppy.
Cheers to all.
That's never an easy thing to do. :'(
It was a few weeks ago, but my wife tells me I was talking to Jake in my sleep. I was calling him to go for a walk. I've always talked in my sleep, but this.................... I'm not sure, made me happy I think.
Got a puppy sat. :cheers:
Glad to here it :cheers:
That's wonderful news. Our little pup is 4 months old now. We took her out for her first walk this morning. She loved every minute of it.
p/s good luck with those needle sharp teeth!!!!!
Don't forget to post some pics in the Pet thread. :2thumbs:
I would love to post pic's, but I always need a friend/sponsor to help post pic's here.
Oh, that's tough!
You'll just have to look at mine instead. :icon_smile_big:
Have a Happy Birthday DJ :cheers: :cheers:
Quote from: JB400 on May 26, 2018, 02:48:55 AM
Have a Happy Birthday DJ :cheers: :cheers:
I second that :cheers: :cheers:
I'm just typing this out as a form of therapy, feel free to ignore!
After taking to several professionals it has become clear that I have been suffering from major depressive disorder most of my life. I always thought it was normal to feel like I did but guess not! I'm doing therapy and tried an SSRI but that didn't go well.
I finally got through PA school which at times was a bit more than a headache, but it's done and I have a sweet job lined up. So I'm good with all that.
Things at home are going poor; I can't tell where my marriage will end up but I'm not super optimistic. That's taking a huge toll on me.
I have lost interest in just about anything and everything. I can't find pleasure in anything I do, which is a bad sign, and I'm not sure how to get out of it.
If you see me posting my car for sale, it'll be because of uncontrolled emotion and sadness, I DO NOT WANT TO GET RID OF MY CAR. So please stop me before I do something as stupid as that.
I know what I need to do to get better, or try at least, but I'm not motivated enough to do even that.
The part about not finding pleasure in things...I get that way sometimes as well. Food doesn't taste as good as I think it should, life feels routine, movies and TV that I usually enjoy don't hold my interest.
I have had fleeting thoughts of selling the car as well but my conscious brain knows that it is a bullshit thought. Armchair psychiatry here....When I've been feeling "off", my mind sometimes wants a dramatic JOLT to kick start myself into feeling right. I've had momentary desires to do risky and dangerous things as well, skydiving, driving way too fast, climbing huge trees, etc. Again, I've been fortunate to have a good "reality check" to stop me from taking it too far. Maybe that is your safety valve? Imagine how you'd be without it!
Sorry to hear you're having such a hard time Dino. Do your best to stay positive and don't give up on your marriage. Everyone has their ruts.
Sorry to hear you're going through some tough times right now. Without getting into the details we also struggled with an SSRI that sent things from bad to worse. On a better path now in the last couple months with no SSRI/SSNI but using Abilify. Most therapists use it as an adjunct in addition to another medicine, but we have found low-ish doses of Abilify alone have been quite helpful.
Hang in there Dino!
Thanks guys, I'm fighting hard to stay above water.
Life can be tough sometimes, I just buried a friend last Monday. He suffered from PTSD and committed suicide and I did not see it coming. Last year I had 18 rounds of chemo and a stem cell transplant. He would come to visit in the hospital and was always upbeat, which kept me going. He would always say "you're tough man, I could never be able to go through what you are going through". But he always had a positive attitude and kept me going right up until last Monday. My advice talk to someone about what you are feeling and get the help you need.
I'm so sorry to hear that Black, that's terrible.
I've been depressed my entire life so I guess I got used to it, but sometimes it's hard to handle. I'm not one to go finish it though, I don't have that in me. Oh, and I'm seeing a therapist.
Quote from: Dino on September 02, 2018, 08:21:04 AM
I'm just typing this out as a form of therapy, feel free to ignore!
After taking to several professionals it has become clear that I have been suffering from major depressive disorder most of my life. I always thought it was normal to feel like I did but guess not! I'm doing therapy and tried an SSRI but that didn't go well.
I finally got through PA school which at times was a bit more than a headache, but it's done and I have a sweet job lined up. So I'm good with all that.
Things at home are going poor; I can't tell where my marriage will end up but I'm not super optimistic. That's taking a huge toll on me.
I have lost interest in just about anything and everything. I can't find pleasure in anything I do, which is a bad sign, and I'm not sure how to get out of it.
If you see me posting my car for sale, it'll be because of uncontrolled emotion and sadness, I DO NOT WANT TO GET RID OF MY CAR. So please stop me before I do something as stupid as that.
I know what I need to do to get better, or try at least, but I'm not motivated enough to do even that.
I could tell a similar story. Sweet job making real good money, but it's like you have to be angry to find the strength to get stuff done. That seems to help focus me. I don't think it's the way to go.
:2thumbs: hope you,alls are doing ok,out there. hold on dino most stuff gets better,con grads on schooling an new job. an best to you on marrage stuff.
you alls take GOOD CARE out there. and stay out of trouble,SP / :2thumbs: :cheers:
Quote from: djcarguy on September 24, 2018, 06:20:47 PM
:2thumbs: hope you,alls are doing ok,out there.
you alls take GOOD CARE out there. and stay out of trouble,SP / :2thumbs: :cheers:
Quote from: djcarguy on November 13, 2012, 04:07:47 AM
DEPRESSION, OR WINTER BLUES AND SAD TIME THAT LAST,,, PLEASE ASK DOC AND FAMILY OR FRIENDS FOR HELP.
THIS HAS BEEN ON MY MIND ALOT THIS LAST WEEK . IF YOU ARE FEELING DOWN AND SAD,PLEASE REACH OUT.
I HAVE LOST FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND BEEN THRU THIS FOR YEARS MYSELF 30 SOME. NOW MEDS LAST 16 YRS.
PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE ,AND IF ANY DARK IDEAS OR MOODS LAST REACH OUT FOR HELP. THE MIND IS THICKY AND WE CAN NOT JUST WILL THINGS BETTER,OR JUST SNAP OUT OF IT.
SO PLEASE ASK AND GET HELP ,AND THINGS CAN GET BETTER. I AM VERY CONCERNED LATLY BOUT THIS AND THE TIMES AND STRESSES PEOPLE ARE DEALING WITH,THESE DAYS... OK TO PM ME IF YOU DONT WANT TO REPLY IN OPEN ,ITS OK.LATTTER DAVID J WE CAN ALL USE A FRIEND OR HAND SOMETIMES : :2thumbs:
Have a Happy Thanksgiving DJ. :cheers:
Quote from: djcarguy on November 16, 2012, 07:27:42 AM
SOME GOOD INFO AND REPLYS ON[[[[ DOES ANYONE USE LIGHT THERAPY]]]] THREAD FOR PEOPLE WITH WINTER BLUES AND SADDNESS OR LOSS OF MOTIVATION,,WORTH A READ.
I HAVE BEEN GOING THRU THE HOLIDAY,WINTER FUNK .BUT IN MY 2 YRS HERE HAVE POSTED ABOUT BEING DISABLED,BUT NOT DEPRESSION AND MEDS. WAS FORCED OUT OF WORK 2001 AND COULD NOT GET WORK BECAUSE OF PSHYICAL INJURIES AND OPPERATIONS AND RESTRICTIONS. AND IT TOOKS YEARS AND ALMOST MY LIFE TO FINALLY GET A DOC WHO SAW HOW BAD AND CLOSE I WAS TO CHECKING OUT. STILL TOOK LONG TIME AND LAWYER AND SHRINK TO GET DECLARED UNEMPLOYABLE AND GET DISABLITY. SOME TIMES ONLY THING THAT KEPT ME GOING WAS MY 3 KIDS . I HAVE GOOD AND BAD PERIODS LIKE RIDING SOME KILLER ROLLER COASTER.MARRIED TWICE AND 1 LONG TIME LIV IN ALL FELL APART.JOBS AND BOSSES AND COPS ARE NOT TO UNDERSTANDING. OR WIVES EITHER SOMTIMES.
BUT WITH TIME OF YEAR AND LOSS OF OUR MOPAR BROTHER,I FELT MIGHT BE GOOD FOR ME AND OTHERS IF WE GOT THIS OUT IN OPEN AND BE A SUPPORT TO OTHER MEMBERS.. RIP TO A GREAT GUY,CHARGER STEVE.
MOSTLY ASKING AND ENCOURAGING ALL US SOMETIMES THICK SKULLED ,HE-MAN TO ASK FOR AND EXCEPT SOME HELP AND LIFE CAN GET BETTER AND EVEN OUT THE ROLLER COASTER OF LIFE. :Twocents: DJ
Well made it thru turkey day,now have to sleep till new year.Not a great year,but iam planning to see an piss on 2020,haha,,.??
went back an read 1st, 5 pages an last 2,,A Big THANKS !! for all the supportive post you guys,over these years..Think ,know it has helped me an hope others as well.. :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :cheers: :cheers:
have been wondering where so many of our members are an why so many guy are not active or posting car stuff. 1 guys profile I checked last post was 2015 seems like he was here few months ago,but 4 years?what the hello is going on ???
Turkey day at small diner,not a call or invite from 3 kids or any family.now week later no contact with any family.DId go to church sunday got a few little old lady hugs an chat,,iam 60 now so if I say old you can guess these ladies are 39 for decade,,many decades.. THANKS DJ :2thumbs:
Quote from: djcarguy on December 06, 2019, 08:58:38 AM
.DId go to church sunday got a few little old lady hugs an chat,,iam 60 now so if I say old you can guess these ladies are 39 for decade,,many decades.. THANKS DJ :2thumbs:
Does your church have ministries or groups that you can get involved in? It's always a good way to meet good people and do something positive.
Getting laid always helps. Too Bad Brothels are illegal.
But what if it makes your ass sore?
I don't know. I am not gay and don't have a rainbow flag as a avatar. :scratchchin:
I don't know what is the right thing to write, but I think that recognizing that seasons have an effect on us and when depression occurs is important. Dealing with it is something else. I found having someone to talk with like a therapist has helped me.
Quote from: Kern Dog on December 09, 2019, 11:59:54 PM
But what if it makes your ass sore?
Quote from: ACUDANUT on December 10, 2019, 12:49:17 AM
I don't know. I am not gay and don't have a rainbow flag as a avatar. :scratchchin:
Just take KD at his word.
I like making jokes. I've never had a man in my ass or any other place. I have no interest in men. I like twat more than Chargers. I'm not bullshitting, it is true.
Quote from: Kern Dog on December 10, 2019, 11:51:52 PM
I like making jokes. I've never had a man in my ass or any other place. I have no interest in men. I like twat more than Chargers. I'm not bullshitting, it is true.
Thanks for the clarification :smilielol:
Quote from: djcarguy on September 24, 2018, 06:20:47 PM
:2thumbs: hope you,alls are doing ok,out there. hold on dino most stuff gets better,con grads on schooling an new job. an best to you on marrage stuff.
you alls take GOOD CARE out there. and stay out of trouble,SP / :2thumbs: :cheers:
Quote from: djcarguy on December 06, 2019, 08:58:38 AM
Well made it thru turkey day,now have to sleep till new year.Not a great year,but iam planning to see an piss on 2020,haha,,.??
went back an read 1st, 5 pages an last 2,,A Big THANKS !! for all the supportive post you guys,over these years..Think ,know it has helped me an hope others as well.. :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :cheers: :cheers:
have been wondering where so many of our members are an why so many guy are not active or posting car stuff. 1 guys profile I checked last post was 2015 seems like he was here few months ago,but 4 years?what the hello is going on ???
Turkey day at small diner,not a call or invite from 3 kids or any family.now week later no contact with any family.DId go to church sunday got a few little old lady hugs an chat,,iam 60 now so if I say old you can guess these ladies are 39 for decade,,many decades.. THANKS DJ :2thumbs:
Quote from: djcarguy on December 06, 2019, 06:46:52 AM
Quote from: djcarguy on November 16, 2012, 07:27:42 AM
SOME GOOD INFO AND REPLYS ON[[[[ DOES ANYONE USE LIGHT THERAPY]]]] THREAD FOR PEOPLE WITH WINTER BLUES AND SADDNESS OR LOSS OF MOTIVATION,,WORTH A READ.
I HAVE BEEN GOING THRU THE HOLIDAY,WINTER FUNK .BUT IN MY 2 YRS HERE HAVE POSTED ABOUT BEING DISABLED,BUT NOT DEPRESSION AND MEDS. WAS FORCED OUT OF WORK 2001 AND COULD NOT GET WORK BECAUSE OF PSHYICAL INJURIES AND OPPERATIONS AND RESTRICTIONS. AND IT TOOKS YEARS AND ALMOST MY LIFE TO FINALLY GET A DOC WHO SAW HOW BAD AND CLOSE I WAS TO CHECKING OUT. STILL TOOK LONG TIME AND LAWYER AND SHRINK TO GET DECLARED UNEMPLOYABLE AND GET DISABLITY. SOME TIMES ONLY THING THAT KEPT ME GOING WAS MY 3 KIDS . I HAVE GOOD AND BAD PERIODS LIKE RIDING SOME KILLER ROLLER COASTER.MARRIED TWICE AND 1 LONG TIME LIV IN ALL FELL APART.JOBS AND BOSSES AND COPS ARE NOT TO UNDERSTANDING. OR WIVES EITHER SOMTIMES.
BUT WITH TIME OF YEAR AND LOSS OF OUR MOPAR BROTHER,I FELT MIGHT BE GOOD FOR ME AND OTHERS IF WE GOT THIS OUT IN OPEN AND BE A SUPPORT TO OTHER MEMBERS.. RIP TO A GREAT GUY,CHARGER STEVE.
MOSTLY ASKING AND ENCOURAGING ALL US SOMETIMES THICK SKULLED ,HE-MAN TO ASK FOR AND EXCEPT SOME HELP AND LIFE CAN GET BETTER AND EVEN OUT THE ROLLER COASTER OF LIFE. :Twocents: DJ
Quote from: djcarguy on December 13, 2019, 10:36:19 PM
Quote from: djcarguy on December 06, 2019, 08:58:38 AM
Well made it thru turkey day,now have to sleep till new year.Not a great year,but iam planning to see an piss on 2020,haha,,.??
went back an read 1st, 5 pages an last 2,,A Big THANKS !! for all the supportive post you guys,over these years..Think ,know it has helped me an hope others as well.. :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :cheers: :cheers:
have been wondering where so many of our members are an why so many guy are not active or posting car stuff. 1 guys profile I checked last post was 2015 seems like he was here few months ago,but 4 years?what the hello is going on ???
Turkey day at small diner,not a call or invite from 3 kids or any family.now week later no contact with any family.DId go to church sunday got a few little old lady hugs an chat,,iam 60 now so if I say old you can guess these ladies are 39 for decade,,many decades.. THANKS DJ :2thumbs:
Have a Merry Christmas fellas :cheers:
Well, let us get to 2020. WOW, who would ever thought being around this long. Hope everyone has a better year, than the last. :cheers: :cheers: :cheers:
wow just over 12hours to 2020,,big bunch of bull,new year,same old shhhhiiiiitttttt,bills,kids that don't give a crap to even call on XAMAS,screw it..
NEW YEAR will start with,i have 2 sons for sale,HAHA HO and 10 cars for sale or scrap...................bull,,,happy crappy new same old boring bull???
60 yrs old an feel 90,knee an shoulder are killing me,an depressed and bored,in fog bank rainy old oreegone......but it will bee great next century ?
but it will bee great next century ?
I think you mean decade. :scratchchin:
Happy New Year. :cheers:
My father's home burned down two days before christmas and lost everything. Sadly wasn't insured. When I asked him why he said his insurance was $700 a month so he had to cancel it the year before. He's been staying in my spare room until the weather turns and he can figure out what he is going to do.
Damn, that sucks. 700 a month for insurance ? Sounds crazy.
That SUCKS the big one Drache, had an old friend that found himself in a similar boat, but $700 a month, he'd better have been paying on about 4 million in replacement value.. I pay $3900 cdn a year, agreed replacement, recent insurance adjuster appraisal at their demand to cover house, shop and hangar. Combined 1.9 Million.
Sorry to hear this.
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Damn, that sucks. 700 a month for insurance ? Sounds crazy.
Log home that was built in the 1800s, rural area that didn't have a fire department, primary heat was wood
I would drop the insurance and take my chances @700 a month for insurance on a home. That or live in a Motorhome. :Twocents:
This is got to be something we are all dealing with. Life sucks right and death can't be much worse.
Now is the time to be positive and stay that way. Bad things happen, so good things can happen afterward
Hope everyone is holding up pretty good. :cheers:
I feel great.
Every day is a happy day. A good friend of mine says that when I call. ( He has a '79 Lil' Red Express and a Power Wagon. ) After a while, I started to live by that. Look, your life could be worse. Ya don't live in a third world country with no running water and make your living picking through plastic recycling. You have some disposable income and a car that is essentially a toy.
Now I believe it. I've seen messed up. Hey, I used to work in Baltimore City every day. My life could be worse, way worse.
Don't drink Lysol! Or shoot it up! A Lysol enema is right out!! :rotz: :rotz: :rotz:
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This is got to be something we are all dealing with. Life sucks right and death can't be much worse.
Darwin says, life will get better. Death is permanent.
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Quote from: ACUDANUT on March 28, 2020, 09:52:01 AM
This is got to be something we are all dealing with. Life sucks right and death can't be much worse.
Darwin says, life will get better. Death is permanent.
Did he also says life is short and you will die ? :shruggy:
This thread needs an uplifting song....
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gejSEOnaYek
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This thread needs an uplifting song....
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gejSEOnaYek
Thought it was going to be the theme from "MASH".....
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Quote from: Mytur Binsdirti on April 26, 2020, 05:50:17 AM
This thread needs an uplifting song....
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gejSEOnaYek
Thought it was going to be the theme from "MASH".....
Suicide Is Painless? Nah, I wouldn't post anything like that.
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Quote from: odcics2 on April 26, 2020, 03:57:30 PM
Quote from: Mytur Binsdirti on April 26, 2020, 05:50:17 AM
This thread needs an uplifting song....
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gejSEOnaYek
Thought it was going to be the theme from "MASH".....
Suicide Is Painless? Nah, I wouldn't post anything like that.
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Haven't heard from dj in a while :popcrn:
Quote from: djcarguy on November 13, 2012, 04:07:47 AM
DEPRESSION, OR WINTER BLUES AND SAD TIME THAT LAST,,, PLEASE ASK DOC AND FAMILY OR FRIENDS FOR HELP.
THIS HAS BEEN ON MY MIND ALOT THIS LAST WEEK . IF YOU ARE FEELING DOWN AND SAD,PLEASE REACH OUT.
I HAVE LOST FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND BEEN THRU THIS FOR YEARS MYSELF 30 SOME. NOW MEDS LAST 16 YRS.
PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE ,AND IF ANY DARK IDEAS OR MOODS LAST REACH OUT FOR HELP. THE MIND IS THICKY AND WE CAN NOT JUST WILL THINGS BETTER,OR JUST SNAP OUT OF IT.
SO PLEASE ASK AND GET HELP ,AND THINGS CAN GET BETTER. I AM VERY CONCERNED LATLY BOUT THIS AND THE TIMES AND STRESSES PEOPLE ARE DEALING WITH,THESE DAYS... OK TO PM ME IF YOU DONT WANT TO REPLY IN OPEN ,ITS OK.LATTTER DAVID J WE CAN ALL USE A FRIEND OR HAND SOMETIMES : :2thumbs:
Good to see you're back dj :cheers:
Hi Everyone. Literally every morning I wake up im like..."YES! I'm not dead yet!!" I make the most of every day...no (or few) regreats
:cheers: :cheers: :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :cheers: :cheers: Hope we all have the best Holidays possible an heres hoping for betterrrrr healthy NEW YEAR .. :2thumbs: :cheers: Hope this thread has helpped some of you,it helpped me afew times.. take care an hang in there,it has too get better,some year ??? ??? :2thumbs:
Quote from: djcarguy on December 21, 2021, 06:05:12 PM
:cheers: :cheers: :2thumbs: :2thumbs: :cheers: :cheers: Hope we all have the best Holidays possible an heres hoping for betterrrrr healthy NEW YEAR .. :2thumbs: :cheers: Hope this thread has helpped some of you,it helpped me afew times.. take care an hang in there,it has too get better,some year ??? ??? :2thumbs:
Quote from: djcarguy on December 31, 2019, 01:24:15 PM
wow just over 12hours to 2020,,big bunch of bull,new year,same old shhhhiiiiitttttt,bills,kids that don't give a crap to even call on XAMAS,screw it..
NEW YEAR will start with,i have 2 sons for sale,HAHA HO and 10 cars for sale or scrap...................bull,,,happy crappy new same old boring bull???
60 yrs old an feel 90,knee an shoulder are killing me,an depressed and bored,in fog bank rainy old oreegone......but it will bee great next century ?
FELL few days after Xmas,hurt knee an arm.been dealing with lots a pain an depression, may bee out ta here......take care . DJ, :brickwall:
Keep your chin up, friend. It will get better. It always does, eventually. Some times take longer than others. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way! :cheers:
Talking about our issues online with folks, we cant make eye contact which may be fine for some?
Shits not gonna change until we, us Americans, ask for more mental health facilities. Da hell with the housing crisis! If a person gets their mind right, finding somewhere to live is only part of the issue!
Naomi Judd Just killed herself with a gun, and she was what..75 ?? Damn
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I'm suffering from PTSD at the moment.
I recently found someone slumped over the steering wheel of my disabled neighbours van.
Thinking it was one of my neighbours carers I went over to help but it turns out the guy was intoxicated and passed out while stealing from the vehicle.
The guy got quite aggressive and I was assaulted although not seriously. I wasn't injured at all but endured a 20 minute ordeal of him getting up close and me pushing him away hoping that the police would turn up. They did 5 minutes after he left.
Two neighbours came out to help thankfully.
I was fine at the time but after a couple of days the PTSD kicked in.
Had 4 weeks off work.
Been back at work for 2 weeks but had a bad day today and and didn't go in but plan on going in tomorrow.
I've never suffered with my mental health before and never understood until now how hard it can be for people!
You think you're getting over it and then those unpleasant feelings come right back.
I keep reminding my myself that this wasn't my fault although I did make some mistakes that meant I could have been knocked to the ground or stabbed quite easily.
I'm not trained in self defense but plan on getting some training soon.
The police haven't been much help so far so that doesn't help with how I've been affected.
Hopefully I'll be back to my old self soon.
WE used to have the spirit of "toughing it out" and moving on. Society has tried to wipe that out and it seems to be working. This does not make us stronger.
I'm not aiming this toward anyone specific but there are many people that give in to their weakness rather than working through it toward their hidden strength.
I am not advocating for people to ignore what bothers them and pushing themselves toward suicide but men used to work through this stuff and get past it without therapy, crying and taking anti-depressants.
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Quote from: Kern Dog on October 19, 2023, 02:21:24 PMWE used to have the spirit of "toughing it out" and moving on. Society has tried to wipe that out and it seems to be working. This does not make us stronger.
I'm not aiming this toward anyone specific but there are many people that give in to their weakness rather than working through it toward their hidden strength.
I am not advocating for people to ignore what bothers them and pushing themselves toward suicide but men used to work through this stuff and get past it without therapy, crying and taking anti-depressants.
I don't necessarily disagree Kern Dog.
I've always been able to push on through in the past, learn from my mistakes or unpleasant event.
But sometimes several factors come in to play and start taking their toll then something happens that tips you over the edge when ordinarily it wouldn't phase you.
This is what happened in my case and I started doubting myself.
The mind can distort what really happened and make things seem worse than they really were.
And that there is the problem. In my case anyway.
I know where I F'd up and it won't happen again so when I'm done with being pissed off with myself I'll come back stronger.
Humor usually helps me get past the difficult times....
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This might snap you out of depression:
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If not them, how about her?
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Soooo pretty!
How about this one?
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Okay....here is the last for now.
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Quote from: Kern Dog on October 27, 2023, 02:47:22 AMOkay....here is the last for now.
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Lots of plastic in your last five pictures, Kern.... :scratchchin:
And probably more than one penis. :puke:
Quote from: Kern Dog on October 27, 2023, 05:10:31 PMA man that complains about pictures of beautiful women must either be unable to have sex anymore or a Muslim.
Too many aftermarket parts.
Fake is a big turn off to me.
If you get off on that sort of thing, good for you.
Please, carry on with your fantasies.
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These are fantasy women, dude...None of us here are going to meet them or bed them.
Just look and enjoy or move along. This site moves slower than 140 wt gear oil in Canada. I'm just trying to help pick things up a bit.
Maybe you haven't been around enough young women to know that even Asians have some big tits now due to the food we are eating. Big tits doesn't automatically mean fake.
Flat stomachs, big tits and a tan? Why would anyone object to that?
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QuoteThis site moves slower than 140 wt gear oil in Canada.
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
You want fake?
Here is an AI creation:
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How about athletic?
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Another fitness fanatic....
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How about the stomach on this one?
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Back when we drove them like cars instead of investments...
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Movie and TV show cars....
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Not twins....
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Such a pretty face.
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Did I already post this?
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Quote from: Kern Dog on October 30, 2023, 01:07:04 AMBack when we drove them like cars instead of investments...
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That was a cool vid, but for some reason can't find it.
That "still-shot" was picked from FBBO a few months back. I like seeing vintage pictures of these cars being driven as just cars and not investments.
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Quote from: Kern Dog on December 18, 2023, 01:10:01 AMThat "still-shot" was picked from FBBO a few months back. I like seeing vintage pictures of these cars being driven as just cars and not investments.
Me too, I did a nut and bolt restoration on my charger and I driver her hard. My friend's comment on how much I drive my charger, as they stare at their cars in the garage. You can't take it with you.
That is fantastic. I love to see these cars get driven like cars are supposed to.
It is easy to forget that they were not designed and sold to be garage art. When new, they were just stylish transportation. They saw grocery stores, traffic jams, snow, blazing sun, mountain roads, beaches, paved roads and gravel.
It can be hard to bring yourself to treat them as a daily driver when we spend thousands to restore them.
Cheers to you, sir.
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